We have a wedding coming up were kind of in a pickle with. My BIL (husband's brother) and his fiance are having an out of town, weekday wedding. It's also child free. My husband and I are both standing up in the wedding. I kind of thought close family (nieces and nephews mostly) typically bypassed the no child rule. Especially if there's only one nephew per side. I understand saying oh we'd have to let other kids come then, but I think people understand close family will still likely be there. Especially since it's out of town.
Between my BIL and his fiance there are two nephews. Both younger so hard to find childcare for. Even if I think it's weird it is what it is. Well the couple isn't helping with childcare at all. They didn't even have suggestions and got irritated when we asked saying we should have this figured out already. We asked several friends in the area but it's a long time and a weekday wedding. How were we supposed to figure it out? My BIL even said, "if you were just banking on him coming this whole time he's not". We never even asked if he could come... They're expecting both of us to be gone for 12+ hours (the wedding is 1 hour from the hotel) and the only suggestion we've been given is care.com.
I'm not really sure what to do. We don't feel comfortable using care.com in this situation. We're a little thrown off by the lack of resources or support from my husband's brother and fiance. We don't feel they're being very considerate but don't feel like causing drama. We are expected to be out of town for the wedding 4-5 days and also didn't feel comfortable leaving him at home for long considering how far away we will be. As of now, our best option is for our son to hang out with a family member during the ceremony (probably hidden away somewhere) and then I, a bridesmaid, will leave right after the ceremony to take him back for the rest of the night. It'll be awkward and I'm sure it'll leave an empty spot at the head table but I'm not sure what else to do.
We explained that we weren't asking if he could go, just looking for a little help. And that we feel we've been respectful and accommodating. Not sure what the best option even is at this point. Looking for advice.
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