Never Say Never

YES! My fiancé lives in the one town I said I would NEVER EVER EVER live in! Yet.... here we are 🤦🏼‍♀️

I also said I would never date a man who had a child/children. But, my fiancé has a son. I guess you just make certain concessions when you find your person!

Lol! I said I’d never be with a bearded man and boy was I wrong 😅 I was always concerned beards would be scratchy but he has fine hair so it’s actually nice and soft (when it isn’t stubbles of course)

I said i never wanted a man with a desk job but to be a hard working man with his hands, ...... well.... he has a desk job! 🤣

View Quoted Comment Same here with me. He got his way with this one.

View Quoted Comment I said the same thing and my FH does not have kids. I would prefer not to do it unless he was a widower.

View Quoted Comment It was definitely a hard decision for me to make once we started getting serious. Like you said, dating somebody with children means also having their ex-spouse a part of your life. His situation is rather unique though- the mother of his child is now a lesbian and is in a long time committed relationship. And, because FH and I were friends for many years prior to beginning a romantic relationship, I actually already knew his child’s mother, so there has been no animosity, issues, etc. so in that way I am very lucky. However, I am definitely NOT a kid person. I have just never been a fan of children, I’ve purposefully never spent any prolonged time with them, they do not fit into my lifestyle, and do not intend to have any of my own. It was a really hard sell, But he finally convinced me to stick around! I’ll admit, I still struggle with it a lot. I just keep reminding myself he won’t be a child forever LOL

View Quoted Comment This is very funny and cute lol.

Yep. I had 4 categories that were a definite NO for me... A guy couldn’t be 1.)military 2.)police/firefighter 3.)bodybuilder or 4.) under 5’10” tall 🤷🏽‍♀️. I know it’s strange, but we all have deal breakers. Those 4 were on my list because I don’t do long distance relationships (feels too much like I’m single). Police and firefighters are respectable occupations, but too risky along with the mental toll it takes on them (same as with military). I basically hate the look of a bodybuilder with big muscles upon muscles. Instead, I like a nice, fit, toned body that works out (this applies to myself too). But not a bulky bodybuilder shape. Finally, since I’m 5‘5“, my preference was a guy who stood taller than me.


Welp, FH fell into 3 of those categories 🤦🏽‍♀️. He was in the Navy for 30 years (now works for the Government still within the Navy world).... he was a competitive bodybuilder when he was younger and FH is 5‘7“. It’s funny because I’ve told him those used to be my hard “No’s“. But the only reason I think it worked out is because FH and I met when we were 30s/40s since we’ve both been married before. He was at the end of his military career and wasn’t getting deployed any longer. Additionally, years had gone by since competing and FH no longer has a bodybuilder shape and is instead nicely fit and toned (I didn’t actually know FH during those years. But I’ve seen pictures and videos. He won competitions. But I can’t stand that look 😝) Lol!! Lastly, I used to be a little uncomfortable about his height only being 2 inches taller than me. But that quickly became a non-factor and now I don’t even think about it. I’m also not the type to wear flats all the time. So I wear my heels, which makes me a bit taller. But thankfully neither of us are lacking confidence. The even funnier part is that we met randomly one night in Walmart (of all the horrible places 😝) while quickly running in to grab something I needed. That’s a whole other story. But ultimately, it all worked out and I’m beyond happy that it did! So, yep, I do believe in the quote “never say never”!!!

View Quoted Comment OK, now that you opened the can of worms, I would love to hear the “met in Walmart“ story! 😆

View Quoted Comment That's very funny. And ppl with desk jobs can work from home.

View Quoted Comment Omg, girl, you had me laughing so hard as I was reading this.

I said I was never going to get married 🤣😂

Yes I said that I was never going to marry a country bumpkin and I didn't think I would ever move back out into the sticks. And here I am with the love of my life who is 100% a country bumpkin (she calls herself that so it is not a bad thing and I love it about her) and we have a home in the middle of nowhere lol!

View Quoted Comment Your comment is the funniest!!!!!

View Quoted Comment Thanks lol. I never planned my dream wedding when I was younger, it was just not something that interested me. I told my fiance when we started dating that marriage was not something I wanted to do. But I fell head over heels in a way I hadn't with anyone else so here I am, actually pretty excited about all this wedding stuff now hahaha. He loves to tease me about how into it I am for somebody who was so adamant about not getting married in the first place 🤣

Hahah I like this thread. If I had to be honest I never thought I'd date someone who likes anime a lot. I think anime just reminds me of awkward guys from high school (no offense to anyone who likes it, the culture can be offputting at times) and kind of creeps me out. But my FH likes anime and reads it in his free time sometimes.

View Quoted Comment Oh my! This is too funny.

1.) I will never date/ marry someone with kids.... he has three.
2.) I will never date/ marry a law enforcement officer/ military personnel because I was raised in a family with both and I just didn’t want that lifestyle for myself and my future family.... I’m marrying a cop.
3.) I will never marry someone who can’t leave where they live (I like to move and travel, and my career allows that)..... he can’t leave our town because he has split custody with his ex-wife.🤦‍♀️

I thought I'd never be jealous of someone getting married before/around me, but now that I had to postpone my wedding and many of my friends are getting engaged and planning around and before my new wedding, I am like the green monster! Gladly I have been able to completely hide these jealous feelings and talk myself down so that I can feel joy for these ladies. But before all this, I remember scoffing at Bridezillas who freaked out about someone getting engaged or married before or near them