New baby nephew and reception music

First of all congrats on your upcoming wedding and congrats on the newest addition to your family, what a joyful time! I think its a little bit much for them to expect you to end your reception early though, is this just coming from your MIL or do the baby's parents expect this too. This might sound silly but they do sell noise canceling headphones for babies, are there any offsite nearby hotels. Another option is a white noise machine. Personally I think this is something the parents need to figure out though I don't think its fair to make it your problem. Good luck!!

Thank you so much!! Yes, it's an exciting and joyful time for our families I haven't heard anything from my nephew's parents as of yet, and it just came from my MIL... I do agree that it's the baby's parents' responsibility to figure this out. Unfortunately our venue is out in the countryside, so other accommodations are a little limited, but I'm going to look into whether there are any noise cancelling headphones or similar solutions - the white noise machine is also a great recommendation that my FH and I even use to fall asleep haha. Thank you again!

I'm glad you can process all your feelings here. I hope you are able to communicate your hurt to your partner as well. Honestly, the baby can leave the party early, just like any single guest has that option. You just tell FMIL, "no, the wedding weekend will not be altered to have quiet hours". That's it. The more you talk, the more they will try to change your mind.

You're totally right to be upset by the comments and requests. Unless the baby's parents are personally footing the bill for the DJ, venue, etc., then it's on them to figure it out, and unless your FMIL is footing those bills, then she doesn't get a say. You accommodated the parents by allowing them to bring the baby, but how they choose to make it work is on them.

The whole "totem pole" comment is equally as absurd, and I hope you spoke to your FH about that. You might not be a blood relative, but you're still going to be part of their family, so your FMIL needs to either shape up or risk you and your FH limiting how much time you spend with them.

Do you have a friend or relative on your side that could throw you a shower or you could do a bachelorette party with? If your FH's family isn't willing or able to be there, you could still do something with your friends and family.

Your wedding is important, and I hope you don't let your FMIL rain on your parade ❤

First, I'd like to applaud you for having much more composure than I would with the totem pole comment. That is extremely rude, inconsiderate, and uncalled for. People can be excited about more than one thing at a time, and that comment makes me so sad for you, as it gives me quite the impression of your FMIL.

Second, do not for a second compromise and end your reception early for your new nephew. A lot of babies, not all but a lot, can sleep through noise. I would assume, since everyone is staying there, that said baby will be in a room sleeping when your FMIL wants these so called quiet hours. That makes it even more absurd of an ask. My sister in law had a baby three weeks before my cousin's wedding. She brought my niece to said wedding, and I literally sat and held my niece, who was absolutely out cold, in the middle of the reception, as they played very loud music so my brother and sister in law could go dance. Literally right next to the dance floor. Kid didn't even flinch.

If you haven't, you should definitely talk to your fiancé about her behavior. You've already compromised on things that you normally would be doing to accommodate people who would be traveling for visits, and given up things such as your bridal shower or bachelorette to help with this. You've done more than enough.

I personally will never understand people who can't just enjoy all of the happiness and feel the need to put some sort of competition onto everything that occurs and pit family members against each other. It's petty. It's childish. And it's whole unnecessary.

Hold your ground, don't end your reception early for a silly reason, and don't let her get to you.

Your MIL's requests are so absurd that they are laughable. Do NOT give in! Also, life does revolve around a baby. You should be able to have a shower if you want one

I agree with all the responses that say this is a ridiculous request. The only thing I'd add is that addressing this is your FH's responsibility; it's his family, he can deliver the clear, "no, that's ridiculous" message. Make your lives easier for decades to come by establishing clear boundaries that HE communicates to his family. Babies literally sleep through anything, so if baby/parents/grandparents have whatever need to make it an early night, that's on them. The wedding goes on as planned with music/dancing/whatever.

Wow okay so I'm so sorry you're having to go through this (I'm having similar FMIL and FSIL issues), and that's beyond rude of your FMIL. This shouldn't be on you though, I personally believe your fiancé should correct his mother in saying that you're "low on the totem pole" (um how does that welcome you into the family??) and state that since they're bringing the baby, they might consider staying at another hotel then that's off venue.