NewlyWeds/ When is the Baby Coming?!

Your uterus is not their damn business. When/ if you and your H decide to have kids is not their business.

I'd politely tell them you're enjoying being married and will have kids when you're ready. They need to mind their own damn business.

I had someone ask me that recently, and I burst into tears because I may not be able to have another child. It's such a personal thing, and people need to stop fucking asking that!

I hate when people ask, it's rude, personal and can be insensitive. What if someone had a miscarriage recently? What if someone found out they can't have children? It's such a personal question, and it's no ones business but the couple's.

*sorry for the mini rant*

Eyeroll. FFIL brings it up at least every few weeks, I can't even say he asks, he says "I can't wait for you guys to get married so you can pop out some more grandkids for me". I just smile and change the subject.

After you have one and that one turns about 18 mo old they start asking you when you are going to have another. Lol when I turned 30 and already had a 12 yr old and 8 yr old I was still being asked if I was having more. It doesn’t ever end

My in laws do this all the time. I just tell them when we're ready we will make that decision.

I've been getting this already and it's the worse. Why people think they are entitled to this information is beyond me! I'm tempted to give really graphic answers to repeat offenders

- When is the baby coming?

- Approximately 9 months after the conception, give or take. But I am no expert, so you should ask a doctor or at least google it.

- You're next!

- Was that a threat?

- Give me a little cousin.

- Will do, the moment you deposit X amount of dollars for the first few years worth of expenses, sign a contract that you will babysit 5 days a week from -insert time here-, cover health insurance and start a college fund. Let me know when it is suitable for you to go over the details!

- When are you going to try?

- Any decade now

or

- I don't know, when is it a good time for you?

or

- We would, but my calendar is full, I've got to be at Buckingham Palace by 5pm, Liz is expecting me for tea.

- You didn't make one on the honeymoon?

- Well of course, but the customs claimed it, what you gonna do!

Or at least, this is how I handle such questions, but I find it gets the point across. Something absurd with a touch of sarcasm usually makes the other person realize they crossed into very personal territory that is none of their business, but it's not too aggressive so they don't have room to let it go without it becoming awkward. And I usually follow it up with a smile and "don't worry, if it happens, we will definitely let you know".

@Shelob Lol that last bit about customs is genious!! Actually giggling over here at my office. Can I actually take and use these? They are too great!!

@hisbeauty your right!. I found out I have multiple cystics on both of my ovaries. & was told it would be a little hard for me to have kids.

@Sheldob some of these are hilarious and will definitely be using lol.

Also, another situation is when someone touched my stomach and ask...like so rude!!. I wanted to slap their hands!.

Ask them, “why? Would you like to be at tge conception?”.

I'm not married yet .. and have 3 kids (all girls ) .. we get asked all the time when you trying for a boy .. or are you gonna try for a boy .. so I feel ya it's annoying lol . And Lakeisha .. I ha e pcos and was told it would be hard .. every time I tried to have a child ... the first month I was pregnant. Each and every time ..

I had people ask me at the reception when we were going to have a baby! I laughed and I said I AM 48 PEOPLE! This is not in the plans for us! My husband wanted children, but we realize I am too old.

My family isnt too bad, but my coworker brings it up A LOT (male, which is even more bizarre). He has an 18mo and 4mo and he'll tell me something about his babies, and say "So when are you and James gonna have a kid?" Or "when you and James have a baby..." I typically say not anytime soon, and recently he responded with "Well accidents can happen!" WTF.

I tell people "we are not having kids". That shuts it down pretty quick. We aren't 100% certain whether we will or we won't in the future, but that answer has stopped all the questions. Then, if we do decide to have kids, everyone gets to be pleasantly surprised!

It's none of anyone's damn business and I will tell anyone that. Women have so many complications these days - I have so many friends who are unable to conceive naturally. How dare someone ask them why they don't have children yet.

YES! It's so annoying. Especially from my mom. My brother got married a little over a year ago and she doesn't bother them. It's getting to the point where I just want to tell everyone we aren't having kids

Yes! All the time. This weekend my FMIL asked me and I told her 4-5 years from now. She immediately got a pouty face and said "you should do it in 2 year". I said we wanted to wait and enjoy our marriage first and she again said "2 years is perfect". I just kinda shook my head and told her we would have kids when we felt the timing was right.

I hate when people do this. Pretty much since we've been engaged (January this year), we've been asked when we're going to have kids, or if we plan on trying right after the wedding. I've had coworkers talk about soups and concoctions I need to drink to boost my fertility, and that I need to start taking prenatal vitamins now. Like, get out of here with that! It's especially hurtful when one of those coworkers already knew about my issue with fertility. We worked together and I just broke down and cried at work, and because I trusted her, I told her that a natural pregnancy may not be in the cards for me. Usually I tell others "we'll see". It's not so much a problem now, but I anticipate an onslaught of questions around the holidays when we'll see extended family.

Meh. I had a very rude family member say that we failed our honeymoon by not getting pregnant....like what?!

I just tell people I'm a selfish immature person and I shouldn't ever have children. So many people feel so awkward there is no follow up.

Honestly just being repetitive works for me. I’m 26 and H and I are aiming to TTC so I’ll be pregnant at 29 or 30. We usually get the more politically correct version, “do you think you’ll have kids?” but for the very few people who have bluntly asked something like, “When are you having kids?” or “you guys need to have kids!!” we just say it will happen three or four years and we’ve never gotten questioned or harassed about our personal decisions. Not a question I mind answering, we live overseas from our home country so a lot of people are naturally curious if we’re going to make it our forever home (we’re not). We did get inappropriately questioned on why our courtship and engagement were so short by some a few very ignorant people who assumed we had to be pregnant (no wedding invite for them!) but I found a, “lol nooooooo Can I get some more wine pleeease!?” worked for that