NewlyWeds/ When is the Baby Coming?!

Oh my gosh yes!!!!! We got married Saturday and we have had that question probably 100 times in the past week. When we say we aren't sure that we want children or tell them we don't want to try for at least 7 years they get all offended.

I get very inappropriate back with them. I learned it from my cousin because she deals with the same thing. Ask them when they want you to have sex next or if they plan on paying child support/babysitting when you want to have a life. I have also grabbed my husband and started making out with him, telling them we were starting RIGHT NOW! I have no patience for these questions.

This drives me crazy! As soon as we got engaged people started bugging us about it. We aren't planning on kids anytime soon, if ever. I don't answer anyone anymore because it's not their business. Ugh people just suck!

My FH is currently deployed and my FMIL asks this all the time. Obviously it's hard to create a child when your significant other is halfway around the world. My typical answer is we plan on having a large family of dogs in the future.

Ugh. So none of their business. And even my college roommates, who know it's not on the agenda, put it in their video congrats, so it will be immortalized forever. Ugh.

I'm with LillyBean- I usually politely tell them I'm not interested in having children. If they keep pushing- then I just go defcon-10 and be inappropriate and rude.

Usually I tell them then they need to go have a conversation with my husband about his balls.

It's usually men who push the conversation- and the second you start talking about another mans balls they get really uncomfortable.

I have no shame.

My mom's family doesn't want us to have kids.. Yet. His family is all over us. Last week I was nauseous every time I ate. I couldn't figure it out. A friend told me it sounded like food poisoning, which I now think it was. I didn't recognize it bc it didn't start how my previous encounters started. But his parents asked us to go to Longhorn, which is my favorite. So I told them I really couldn't eat. His dad told me is was morning sickness. Both, my husband and I, started yelling no.

From the first time I ever met my FMIL - when FH and I were both only 19 - she has been harping on us to give her a grandchild. And she is always citing about how old she is and that she will soon be too old to enjoy them. God help me if she sees a baby in a commercial.

At first it bothered me but I couldn't care any less now. I just don't respond. I would say that we aren't planning on it but that would genuinely hurt her and she doesn't deserve that.

Honestly the only time we ever had anyone mention it was at thanksgiving last year and it was husbands cousin who made an inappropriate comment about how fast everything seemed and how excited she is for a baby to be in the family- thankfully MIL shut that down real quick. TBH I am not ready for thanksgiving or Christmas for this reason I can guarantee though that at least 1 person will ask....

Sorry, I was at work, but by all means if someone wants to use any of the responses, please do and preferably give an update on how they went down xD

@Chelsea Very glad you enjoyed it, I made myself chuckle with that one, just made it up, the rest I have unfortunately had to use myself before... And of course use away!

@Lakeisha Happy to help!

@rica the Buckingham Palace is actually a line I use a lot, it's very versatile e.g I so wish I could make it to your cash bar wedding/ancient Sumerian basket-weaving lecture/whatever , but I am expected at Buckingham Palace, Liz is very rigid on schedule.

Who is Liz you ask? Elisabeth II, we are past the first name basis, we use our pet names between the two of us.

I have been called a smart-ass before, no clue why =]

None of my family has asked when we are having kids, but I've had people straight up ask me if it was a shotgun wedding.... so. I understand the shock.

My mom asks me literally ever time I see her. My new answer is "Every time you ask we push back having kids another year!"

Ugh yessssss! FH and I have always said no to kids. And we've made it clear IF we have kids we'll be adopting. The FMIL likes to joke that I'm just afraid to get fat > that and the "but why don't you want to experience giving birth over someone else's kid that isn't yours?" EXCUSE THE EFF OUT OF ME?! I'm pretty tired of it too

Everyone has been asking me since before the wedding (which was on Friday). We are pregnant and found out the week before the wedding, but we haven't told anyone yet. I know everyone will be excited for us.

I would tell them that you'll have kids when the time is right for you.

My MIL hints at it constantly.... Getting real tired of it.

Ask an uncomfortable question, get an uncomfortable answer. "Oh, I'm barren."

That will happen, people expect you to have children after marriage. It's very annoying!!

Not even married and one of my employees said to me today, "well once you get married and have kids your life will be different," implying that I'd essentially back away from my career and focus on family. I said 1. FH and I aren't sure if we are having kids. 2. If we do, my career is very important to me and FH and I have discussed if we do have kids, he would be more of the stay-at-home parent if possible and I would still have the same focus on my career. I just found the comment so demeaning. People are ridiculous!

Lol me and FH just tell people we are planning on adopting. I should probably specify that we mean fur babies

It has been nonstop! A little before the wedding and now after, everyone keeps commenting on when I'm going to reproduce. It's like they have absolutely nothing else to talk to me about. So frustrating!