Nice way of saying...

There isn't a polite way of saying you would prefer money..sorry

You can register for a honeymoon fund, you can spread the word verbally, or you can rely on the fact that most people give money/gift cards for weddings now anyway.

I agree with pp. There is no polite way of saying it.

I don't think it's rude. You could ask for cash in a sweet or funny way.

Sweet: "Your presence at our wedding is the best gift we could ask for, but if you insist on getting us something, we would prefer paper gifts!"

Funny: "We have no idea what we need yet, so we'd prefer paper gifts."

Either way, don't say cash - say "paper gifts"

I would add more kitchen towels.

Need to upgrade the bathroom? How about new sheets? Blow up mattress for when you have guests?

Ice bucket? Wine chiller? Wine charms?

Mellon baller? Lemon zester? garlic press?

garden tools? fire pit?

There is no way to ask for money. You have a small registry and people will pick off it or give you money. Just read this discussion.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/what-does-no-boxed-gifts-mean/ef96bb8b403be79f.html

No one likes to be told to give money. (unless they are physically asking you)

Spread the word to your family and wedding party, so when someone asks, "What do those crazy kids want?" they can reply, "They have a small registry but are really hoping for money so they can work on home improvements."

Here are a few clever ways that I found:

POINT BLANK:

Friends, as you are aware we already have most items needed to 'set up house'. This is the reason for us choosing a wedding wishing well. At the reception there will be a wishing well in which we would love to receive your greeting card and contribution. This will be a great way for us to pool together and buy ourselves something quite luxurious, or to make our honeymoon even better.

Honey Moon Fund:

To support us on our special day you may wish to follow with tradition and bring a gift. Or alternatively you may like to help us make our honeymoon a little more special. For this reason we have chosen a wedding wishing well. The wishing well will be at the reception where we can receive your best wishes and contribution.

Cute Way:

More than just kisses so far we've shared,

Our home has been made with Love and Care,

Most things we need we've already got,

And in our home we can't fit a lot!

A wishing well we thought would be great,

(But only if you wish to participate),

A gift of money is placed in the well,

Then make a wish .... but shhh don't tell!

Once we've replaced the old with the new,

We can look back and say it was thanks to you!

And in return for your kindness, we're sure

That one day soon you will get what you wished for.

Another way:

Soon you will hear our wedding bell,

As Friends and family wish us well.

Our household thoughts are not brand new,

We have twice the things we need for two.

Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,

We're having instead a wishing well wedding.

But more important we ask of you,

your prayers of love and blessings too!

Home Improvements:

They have their dishes and towels for two

They have pots and pans and oven mitts too

So what do you get for the Bride & Groom

Whose house is setup in every room?

Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too

But you can not register for carpet and glue.

A well that holds wishes is the way to go

So lets make it easy for all that know.

An envelope will be provided for those who have room,

To give a monetary wish to the Bride and Groom

A wishing well will be on display at the reception hall

To attach your wishes, for the couple, with love from all.

There are no nice, polite, clever, witty, sweet, or otherwise acceptable ways of asking for cash. Period. People will side-eye you. Please see this recent thread as an example:

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/what-does-no-boxed-gifts-mean/ef96bb8b403be79f.html

Everyone knows that a young couple can always use more cash. If they want to give it, they will, without you asking for it. If you ask for it and people don't want to give it, you will at the very best stress them out a bit, and at the very worst, offend them and cause them to judge you.

Keep a wide variety of price points on your registry. And just say no! lol.

Cute poems, but I would put them on your website.

NOT in the envelope with the wedding invitation.

and you don't usually get "showered" with money at a bridal shower.

@ kris, I posted that Same discussion!

I agree. I would put it on your website if you are wanting guests to know about it and NOT on with your invitations.

There is no polite way to say it..it is RUDE either way you slice it. People will give what they want to give you.

Thanks @Travis's Girl!!!!

Sorry, there is no polite way to ask for money. Best you can do is have a small modest registry and hope that people will gift you with cash if they don't see anything on the registry they want to get you.

Lmao Hayley!!

That thread is my go-to reference now.

I'm an idiot. I would take "paper gifts" to mean a card, lol.

My cousin had a "money tree" or something like that at her wedding. I think it was a mini-tree on top of a box that held the money. The whole idea was that they were moving and couldn't transport the gifts.

@ Hayley!!!

Really???? Cause I need a Lemon Zester... & Wine Charms. & WTF is a Mellon Baller. This is the exact reason why I just want cash! I'm not putting things like that on my registry for us to never use them. I mean When's the last time you used your Mellon Baller... Let's be real...

"Need to upgrade the bathroom? How about new sheets? Blow up mattress for when you have guests?

Ice bucket? Wine chiller? Wine charms?

Mellon baller? Lemon zester? garlic press?

garden tools? fire pit? "

My plan is to have a small registry, mostly for the shower. Additionally, FH and I are not shy about talking about the fact that we want to start a family shortly after the wedding, need a bigger house to do so, and are saving money for a down payment. I think most people will realize.

I am also going to be careful about what stores I register at. I had 2 different friends register and BB&B. Not only did they get several gifts from their registry, but more $$ in BB&B gift cards than what they could spend. I will keep my registry at stores where I know I will spend the gift cards.

Your welcome

I used a mellon baller just a couple of days ago. If you cook you do use those items so no reason to go off on someone for bringing it up. You asked and you got answers sadly only thanked the one person who agrees asking for cash is ok. It's rude. If anyone did that with a wedding I went to I'd give an empty card or a gift without a gift receipt. And wine charms and chllers are awesome for when you entertain guests.