Nice way of saying...

I would be mortified if Cate even put that on her website.

For the record, I used my melon baller last week for fruit salad. : )

Holy cow pies! I have been on this forum since October 2010 and I have never seen Hayley come under attack for what was useful advice!

FutureMrs.L....In your original post, you never asked for clever ways to put it on your website. You stated:

#I know someone put this up before but I can't find the discussion...

what's a nice way of saying we would like cash rather then gifts.

I did make a registry for thing i really need. We already live togther and pretty much have everything but it's more like cooking supplies.

My MIL was complaining about her cusins wedding registry saying everything was so expensive. I mean $200 for sliverwear is a little over doing it but I don't want things like that. I feel like everything on lmy list is supper expensive...

I registered at Kohl's my # is ****

What do you think LOL?"

You asked what people thought. You received polite answers. You were even referred to an additional conversation on this discussion.

We're not having a registry. It was actually thought not too long ago that even having a registry was considered rude, but that's not why we're not having one. We own our house and have for years and honestly already have two sets of everything as we came from our own places. We don't need more "STUFF"! We don't even want it. People can give us whatever they want - gifts, gift cards, money, etc. People give gifts for birthdays and Christmas and anniversaries without having a registry or any other list to choose from so I think people are capable of coming up with a gift without us having to put a list together.

A cute poem still does not make it ok!! it is so tacky to say "we love you but give us your money because we don't trust your judgement to pick out some thing nice for us"

this is just my opinion, but the only way to say we like money is through word of mouth. If you don't send out a registry people will phone relatives and say "what do the kids want" and your mom or his mom can say "you know the kids are really trying to save for a house"

but to put it in your invites or through a registry card is tacky. Even if its done with a cute poem.

Your guests can already guess you want more cash:

Lmao!

2D...Next time please issue an INCONTINENCE ALERT? Some of us older tarts have some "control issues" LMAO!

OMG! Hayley sorry you were attacked. You are always so helpful.

Future Mrs. L: There is never a nice or polite way to ask for cash. If you don't need anything, don't ask for anything. If people get you something, then they get you something. If they give you cash they give you cash.

I can't see what 2d bride posted. It's just a big blank space

View Quoted Comment Lol I think you're hilarious and I COMPLETELY agree! If they want to know what you want or need and its money so be it! @futuremrs.l I was looking for a way to ask the same. We have a house we have everything we need in the house we don't need 550000 repeat materials and things we will never use.... "Mellon baller" yep I need me one of them... LMAO 🙄🙄

I believe if you choose to have a wishing well rather than gifts then that is what works best for you guys as a couple. Your loved ones should understand that this is a personal choice about how and where you want to invest your newly wed money received. The guests are going to spend money anyway and most likely a gift receipt so you are saving them and yourself the hassle from returning something you don't need. As long as your not asking for a minimum amount then it is up to the guest how much he or she can give. Personally, I would appreciate any contribution. I don't see a problem with it as long as it is done in a respectful way.

It seems like the natural progression of things, in my opinion. I know many women, myself included, who already own dinnerware, cookware, sheets, towels, bedding, luggage, and furniture even before we met our significant others because we're marrying later in life (e.g., late 20s) and have been living on our own for nearly a decade. The big thing we don't own is a house, and we're desperately saving with our significant others for a down payment and maybe even getting rid of student debt and upping our retirement contributions (the dream!). I've been to 10 or so weddings, and I always bring a gift - I'd like to know whether the couple really wants that blender or is secretly wishing for money. I'm going to spend it regardless, so I'd like to spend it in a way that's meaningful and helpful for the couple's life.

So this is how I see it - if you're not planning on bringing a gift, no worries, you don't need to buy that kitchen appliance for us or write a check. But if you are bringing a gift, I'd opt to keep using my hand-me-down crock pot if it means I can give a little more to the important things I'm trying to save for and provide to my future family. Call me tacky, I guess.

How do you say that gifts are optional?