Nickname or real (government) name

My real name is Jaimie. On the invitations and ceremony I used my nickname which is Jai. I dont even go by Jaimie unless its work related or for drivers licens etc.

I go by Jessie, but put Jessica on invites, which is not really the same as your situation. Etiquette would say use your full name, but I think it also depends on the formality of your wedding. For a mire formal wedding I’d go full name.

View Quoted Comment Mine is Shelly and Michelle so not really the shortened version. I'm having a Sunday brunch wedding so not really formal.

View Quoted Comment It’s totally up to you, it’s not so far off people would be confused.

I’d go with the name that people typically call you on a daily basis.

Unless you’re having a very formal wedding, I would stick with what you go by.

I would go my orginal botb name..

Birth**** name sorryyyy!!!!!!

I've always heard that per etiquette unless the wedding is super casual to use your full given name.


You could include a copy of an engagement pic so people are able to connect the dots.

It's up to you! Some people like going all out with the formality, but you certainly don't have to use your full legal name!

Two of my best friends both go by nicknames and when I received their wedding invitation I actually didn't know who it was for at first! 🙊 I was a bridesmaid in their wedding and my first reaction to their formal invitation was "who are Katelin and Michael?" Then I saw their parents names and had to laugh at myself!

I'd just go with Shelly, honestly. I wouldn't worry about "etiquette". I'm Samantha but I go by Sam and I did put Samantha, but only because I ALWAYS get told that Sam is a "boy's name" lol and it looked too short next to his name...then again Samantha looked long with his name.

My fiancé and I had this conversation the other night. Quite frankly, my full name never gets used unless I’m in trouble with family and in a professional situation. And my fiancé goes by Bob at work and his family/friends call him Bobby. So, we came up with a blend of the two. There are certain portions that are more formal (like the vows, etc.) and we will use our govt names for that and the invitations. Other parts that aren’t as formal and are more conversational, we will be using our shorter versions (Bobby instead of Robert and Mindy instead of Melinda).

My husband's name is Stephen but has always gone my Kody. We put Kody on the invitations because we knew so many people don't know his real name lol

I would put your real name and your nick name say your name is TIM but the call you TJ

i would put it as Timothy (TJ) Smith and Linda Jones

I would use the name you're comfortable being called. Etiquette doesn't really matter in this situation, especially if people don't even know that it's a nickname and not your real name. In fact, that might cause some confusion. Unless it's a black tie event, don't worry about the formal etiquette. There's no reason you cannot use your regular name instead of your birth name on your invitations.

I came here to ask the same exact question! I'm in the same boat.. I have a nickname that everyone calls me. I wasn't sure what to put on the registry! I think I will definitely use my nickname for registry. I'm still undecided for invitations.

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I think putting Shelly is fine. It's a brunch wedding and you know your crowd. The only issue is if someone was giving you a check as a gift and used that name instead of Michelle.

I go by Lena but my legal name is Elena. Our wedding is formal so I used my full legal name. If it was less formal I would have put Lena.

I was going to go with Shelly but now my FH is saying that if I use Shelly, he wants to go with Zach on everything and I think it should be Zachary. I guess I'm going to have to go with Michelle, I think Shelly & Zach is too informal.

I am using our first names on the invites.