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Expert May 2018

Night before the wedding?

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xRApril, on February 3, 2018 at 3:45 AM

I’ve been looking through forums, but I haven’t really seen this be addressed. But I’m so curious about this! Couples that live together, what are your sleeping arrangements for the night before the wedding?! Should one of us go stay somewhere else? Or do most couples just spend the night together like normal? I had one friend that had her FH go stay at his parents house. I just don’t know if that’s what usually happens? We’ve only been apart 2 days since we moved in together so I’m not sure if I could sleep the night before if he’s not there?! But will I even be able to sleep anyway? Do you see if BMs want to stay the night (we all live pretty close)? I guess I’m just curious what other couples are planning on doing!

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Champion December 2017
earias · on February 3, 2018 at 1:20 PM
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We stayed together in the hotel room. It was very calming being together before the big day.
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TANYA · on February 3, 2018 at 1:34 PM
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I rented an airbnb for myself and my bridesmaids to hang out the night before and get ready the morning of (my wedding will be about 2 hours away from where we live, in Baja California, Mexcio)

My FH will be staying at his grandma's house with his groomsmen. We have lived together for over 2 years, but we take weekend trips without one another so sleeping separately isn't a big deal. I think it will add a little to the fun of the wedding day...
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Kip · on February 3, 2018 at 4:59 PM
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I kinda want to stay with my best friends at the hotel the night before and not let him see me until the walk down the isle. We have been apart before but hate it so not sure if it will happen but it’s in my mind.
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Dedicated April 2018
Dillydilly · on February 3, 2018 at 8:01 PM
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I am staying at a hotel alone. not due to tradition, I just want my own space the night before.
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MrsSnez · on February 3, 2018 at 9:36 PM
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We live together and are having a destination wedding. I doubt I'd get a good night's sleep in a hotel room without him plus it's just easier than getting another room or crashing with his sister. Do what feels comfortable for you and your future spouse!
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January 2018
Private User · on February 3, 2018 at 11:11 PM
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I had the same thought. My FH wanted to spend it apart, but it's sooooooo hard to sleep when we arent together and I want to be well rested the day of my wedding, so we are spending the night together!! I hate that we have become so co-dependent for something as silly as sleeping but 🤷
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xRApril · on February 4, 2018 at 5:25 AM
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I feel ya on the codependency!! I had terrible anxiety and would have panic attacks a lot. My fiancé started singing me to sleep and it helped so much! I can barely sleep if he’s not in bed with me. But I figure I will be too anxious to sleep before the wedding anyway 😂
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The Nuptials · on February 5, 2018 at 3:34 PM
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Unsure. I sleep better next to him and have for the past 4+ years in which we have been living together. I know we have a room booked for him. He may use it, he may not. I rather have a good night of sleep the day before then worry about antiquated traditions.
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ET · on February 5, 2018 at 3:40 PM
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We are staying in two separate “wings” of our hotel and getting ready separately the next morning. I like the added anticipation, plus from a practical perspective, it will be nice for FH to sleep in, relax, hang with the guys etc. while the girls and I are on a stricter schedule with hair/makeup starting at 10 AM. Nothing wrong with staying the night together either!
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FutureMrsN14 · on February 5, 2018 at 3:47 PM
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I’m not positive yet, but we live an hour from the venue and our parents live close. I think we will spend the night at our parents, separately - just for tradition!
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Devoted October 2018
Stephanie · on February 5, 2018 at 3:53 PM
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I rented a house for my bridesmaids and myself for the night before- ONLY because our venue is an hour+from home, our pictures start at 2, and there will be 10 of us getting hair and make-up done.

I'll probably sleep terrible. I didn't really have intentions of spending the night away from him, it's just easier this way.
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Nemo · on February 5, 2018 at 3:56 PM
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He's staying at his parent's house with the guys in his wedding party, and I'm planning to get a suite for myself and the girls to stay in the night before (they don't have to stay with me, but it is an option).
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caitlin · on February 5, 2018 at 3:56 PM
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H and i stayed together at our hotel room, hung out a bit in the morning and then went our separate ways till the afternoon when we met up at the venue. i'm glad we got to wake up together! the whole not-seeing-each-other-till-the-ceremony thing didn't really matter to us.
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Jennifer · on February 5, 2018 at 4:02 PM
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I will be waking up the morning of my wedding with FH, we aren't super traditional & we have lived together for 4 years.
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Mrs.BowmanToBe · on February 5, 2018 at 4:07 PM
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My FMIL was gracious enough to offer her home for me and my bridesmaids to stay the night before and then all get ready there in the morning. I think FH will either stay with his cousin, who is a GM, or get a hotel room. He might even decide to stay at our place, but it's a 45 minute drive from there to the venue and we will be at the venue the night before for RD and set-up.

We don't get to sleep together a lot as it is due to working opposite shifts (I work days and he works graves), so it won't affect us too much.
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Mrs.Sanok · on February 5, 2018 at 4:16 PM
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I know where me and my bridesmaids are staying. We are going to just hang out at my mom's house for the night then in the morning that is where we are getting ready!
For FH and the groomsmen I am not sure if they are staying at our house or somewhere else! But we have time to figure it out!
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FutureMrsKC · on February 5, 2018 at 4:20 PM
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FH and I are both staying in a hotel close to our venue since we live 50 minutes away but we will be in different rooms the night before. No way I could sleep at home alone! My sister will be with me the night before in the hotel then the girls will all come to my suite to get ready.
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JustKidding · on February 5, 2018 at 4:27 PM
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I'll be staying with my bridesmaids at a hotel. He will be at our house.
Mostly so I can have a place without dog hair to get ready. lol.
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Charmaine · on February 5, 2018 at 4:31 PM
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My bridesmaids and daughters and I will be checking into our hotel Friday and we will spend the day at the spa pampering ourselves. My FH will check in the Saturday to the room we have for the girls and we wont see each other until I walk down the aisle
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NinjaBride · on February 5, 2018 at 4:33 PM
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I want to stay at home. Preferably with him there too. He obviously hasn’t given this arrangement much thought because when I asked him he was clueless that this was even something we needed to decide. I feel like as soon as someone else in the family mentions it’s non traditional and we shouldn’t do it he will want to stay apart so I’m trying to let him know what I want before that happens. Haha!
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