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Expert October 2019

Night Before The Wedding

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Jessica, on April 22, 2019 at 12:20 AM

Ok, so this is actually to discuss a tradition but that wasn't a group choice so I figured Family and Relationships might be the closest.

We have our venue for the wedding weekend. They have little rooms to stay in there. The "honeymoon suite " is the last in the group and has two rooms, with a bed in one and couch in the other. I'm semitradtional so I had mentioned to FH that it would be perfect because we can each stay in a different room the night before the wedding. Now we've lived together for almost two years now. So the not sleeping together until marriage thing is out. But I do like the tradition of not sleeping together the night before. He was baffled by it. I still think he'll do it, though, lol..

But coming to the question of this post. How many of ya'll are honoring this tradition?

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Alexis · on April 22, 2019 at 10:50 AM
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My FH and I have been living together for 2 years, and he was kind of upset when I mentioned sleeping apart the night before! He's over it now and actually wants to, but I think it just shocked him since he really didn't know anything about any wedding traditions before we got engaged.
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Lauren · on April 22, 2019 at 11:05 AM
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We'll be staying at separate places the night before! We are getting married close to FH's hometown so he will probably stay with his parents the night before. I am planning on getting an Airbnb for me and my bridesmaids to stay in. I was in my best friend's wedding last year, and she had all of her bridesmaids stay with her the night before her wedding, and it was so fun to have girl time the night before she got married!
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MrsD · on April 22, 2019 at 11:18 AM
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We aren't. We've lived together for over 3 years so it would seem silly to sleep not in our usual comfortable way the night before (for us).
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Sarah · on April 22, 2019 at 11:21 AM
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We live together, but will be apart. I booked an airbnb for my family that weekend, so I'll be staying with them the night before. I think my thought process was a break, to myself, to process everything and finish up last minute details. I seriously doubt I'll even sleep that night haha
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Ginsteeca · on April 22, 2019 at 11:27 AM
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We're spending the night before together, but we'll be at home. It's just cheaper and easier and we're at the point now it's nice saving money where we can.
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Victoria · on April 22, 2019 at 11:57 AM
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We didn't. We had to travel for our wedding and stayed together the night before. The morning of our wedding we had breakfast together with some of our family in the hotel then went our separate ways. The next time we saw each other was when I started my walk down the aisle.
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Cristy · on April 22, 2019 at 12:06 PM
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We are doing this. Our venue is about an hour away from where we live, but it has a bunch of hotels just minutes away. We are going to get a few rooms for our bridal party, etc. to stay in, and we'll each stay in a separate room the night before the wedding.
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Elisabeth · on April 22, 2019 at 12:41 PM
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We will spend the night apart- the guys can stay at our house for the night and the girls and I will stay at my parents house. It is closer to the church so we can sleep a few more minutes before getting up early to have hair and make-up done.
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Heather · on April 22, 2019 at 12:41 PM
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My FH and I will be staying in the same hotel, but different rooms. I'll be in a room with my bridesmaids! I'm not sure if he'll stay alone or invite his groomsmen yet.
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Judith · on April 22, 2019 at 1:29 PM
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I think it is totally bizarre , when you have been living together, to not stay together the night before. What are you accomplishing? It was nice being together, talking about who had arrived, and both looking ahead to the next day. Shared anticipation was exciting
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Becky · on April 22, 2019 at 1:37 PM
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He didn't want to see me until I came down the aisle in my wedding dress on our day, so he stayed at a hotel the night before, and my mom stayed with me at our apartment.
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Kristin · on April 22, 2019 at 1:49 PM
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This was an absolute must from my mom. We live together as well but since I don't really care either way, I am letting mom have this win. We are to part ways at midnight and will not see each other until I walk down the aisle (so no first look). He will either have his own room for the night or will stay with his best man. After that, it'll be a lot of BOLO's from the bridal party to make sure we don't accidentally run into each other.
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Erika · on April 22, 2019 at 2:25 PM
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We are sleeping apart because we are doing mini bachelor and bachelorette get togethers
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Allie · on April 22, 2019 at 2:58 PM
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We aren't keeping this tradition.
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Jenna · on April 22, 2019 at 3:25 PM
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We're sleeping apart in two different rooms at the same hotel. We'll both wake up and get ready in our respective rooms and not see each other until we do our first look once we travel to the venue. We have lived together for almost three years so it has nothing to do with purity or not sleeping together... we just like the idea of staying and separate and letting everything build up to the first look.
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Jazmine · on April 22, 2019 at 3:55 PM
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My family doesn’t quite have this tradition, however, I’ve mentioned to FH to not sleep together a month before the wedding (we live together), and not sleep in the same “household” the night before the wedding. I think it’ll make our wedding night much more special.
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Deirdre · on April 22, 2019 at 4:04 PM
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We didn't. Our venue was 1 1/2 hours from where we lived. I didn't want us to have to pay for 2 hotel rooms the night before just for traditions sake. We are not superstitious people, plus I sleep better when I'm with my H. I wanted to make sure that I got a good night sleep before my wedding. The wedding day went by pretty smoothly, so no bad luck occurred.
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Courtney · on April 22, 2019 at 4:56 PM
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We'll be spending the night before the wedding apart. My fiancé is going to drop me off at our hotel- we get a free room for a night and I called dibs haha- where me and MOH will have one last slumber party together. He will go back to our house with his best man who is staying with us for the weekend. This will make the next day easier when it comes to taking care of our pets in the morning. Plus we'll have two designated places for groups to get ready.
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Nicole · on April 22, 2019 at 8:06 PM
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We are staying together, it’s a DW, we will wake up and then get ready in separate rooms until our first look. At first I didn’t want to spend the night together and he was like, what?? I asked some people and they said they stayed together so I gave him this one, lol.
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Jasmine · on April 22, 2019 at 8:56 PM
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HAHAHA! Quite the adventure. I get it! I wouldn't have thought about sleeping separately after that either.
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