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Jessica
Expert October 2019

Night Before The Wedding

Jessica, on April 22, 2019 at 12:20 AM

Posted in Family and Relationships 140

Ok, so this is actually to discuss a tradition but that wasn't a group choice so I figured Family and Relationships might be the closest. We have our venue for the wedding weekend. They have little rooms to stay in there. The "honeymoon suite " is the last in the group and has two rooms, with a bed...
Ok, so this is actually to discuss a tradition but that wasn't a group choice so I figured Family and Relationships might be the closest.

We have our venue for the wedding weekend. They have little rooms to stay in there. The "honeymoon suite " is the last in the group and has two rooms, with a bed in one and couch in the other. I'm semitradtional so I had mentioned to FH that it would be perfect because we can each stay in a different room the night before the wedding. Now we've lived together for almost two years now. So the not sleeping together until marriage thing is out. But I do like the tradition of not sleeping together the night before. He was baffled by it. I still think he'll do it, though, lol..


But coming to the question of this post. How many of ya'll are honoring this tradition?
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  • Stephanie
    Expert September 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    We live together currently (will have for over 1.5 years by our wedding). Our venue includes a house that our bridal party will be staying at. My FH and I will both stay there the night before but will be in different rooms. We are going on Thursday (Saturday wedding), but haven’t discussed whether we will just be apart Friday night or both Thursday and Friday nights).

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  • Sherein
    Beginner June 2019
    Sherein ·
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    We will be sleeping apart the night before the wedding.
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  • Lauren
    Dedicated September 2019
    Lauren ·
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    We will be sleeping in apart in 2 different suites in the hotel where we will get ready. He loves surprises and wants to be 100% surprised when I walk down the aisle. And I need a some quiet introvert time, plus I will have to be up at at it by 7:30 for hair and makeup. All in all just easier to be in separate rooms the evening before.

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  • M
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Megan ·
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    We are very traditional so we don't live together yet and won't move in together until after the wedding. We will be sleeping apart the night before, but that's just us and our personal values. You have to do what's right for you!

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  • #WhenYouWishUponAWelch
    Devoted July 2019
    #WhenYouWishUponAWelch ·
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    My FH will be staying in a hotel the night before the wedding, and I will stay at my parents house. We are planning to separate after the rehearsal dinner and not see each other again until the ceremony.

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  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
    Furture Mrs. G ·
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    We are definitely honoring the tradition. I am staying at my MOH house with our daughter and him and our son are staying at our home. We have lived together 6 years and the day he proposed we decided to be celibate until the night of the wedding. So we are being semi-tradition as well. We got engaged in November 2018 and are getting married September 2019. So believe me when I say it is definitely hard to be celibate when you share the same home, bed... etc... But, we made that promise to God and the priest and to our selves... So that makes it easier.

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  • Alexandria
    Expert November 2020
    Alexandria ·
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    My FH and i have been together 7 years and have 2 children together so obviously we sleep together every night lol .. but we are still upholding this tradition, we are getting married at a hotel so i have the presidential suite for the night of and i just booked it for the night before as well for myself.

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  • S
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Skylar ·
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    We are not seeing each other all day the day before or sleeping together the night before. We believe in the wedding night.

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  • S
    Just Said Yes August 2019
    Shannon ·
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    So my fiance and I are also sleeping separately the night before our wedding. We want to honor the tradition of not seeing each other until the ceremony. It's kinda cute ya know? Plus, we're both going to be so busy hours before the ceremony. And not seeing him until that ceremony?!? Girl, I might cry looking at that beautiful man ❤️. There's just something about waiting to see someone. It's just kind of exciting to anticipate seeing your lover all dressed up for the big day.
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  • Hannah
    Just Said Yes August 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Probably together just for the saving money factor lol he is a penny pincher
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  • Heather
    Expert August 2020
    Heather ·
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    I'm personally all for that tradition. The night before we are going to book a hotel (we have a friend living with us until he gets back on his feet, and i don't want to spend the night before my wedding in his company) and I was planning on having my bridal party stay with me, or at least two of my cousins if they can't and then going to the venue to decorate the next morning. FH will probably stay with his groomsmen.

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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated August 2019
    Stephanie ·
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    My FH and I won’t live together until after the ceremony, although we have sleepovers twice a week since we’re an hour apart and it’s just easier. He’s going to stay at his house and I’m hoping that I’ll have our new place rented and moved into enough to stay there. Any of the girls who want to stay there can. We’re both getting ready at the church, but our wedding party with run interference so we don’t see each other until I walk down the aisle. ❤️
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  • R
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Rossy ·
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    Together in our home. We are technically married already so our wedding in two weeks is mostly ceremonial. We will have a full house of family!

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  • Rachel
    Expert September 2019
    Rachel ·
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    We haven't even thought about this. Smiley tongue

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  • Bridget
    VIP August 2019
    Bridget ·
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    I am! I mean we also have lived together for the past 4 years but we're sticking to the tradition and spending the night before apart and then the first time we will be seeing eachother is when I walk down the aisle!

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  • thisismrsb
    Expert June 2019
    thisismrsb ·
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    We are sleeping apart the night before. Jewish brides and grooms usually don't see each other for days before the wedding, which is why we don't have rehearsals, but we are seeing each other at the out-of-towner ("rehearsal") dinner the night before. For me, that was a difficult decision to make, because I wanted to be apart for the whole weekend.

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  • Kaleigh
    Super December 2019
    Kaleigh ·
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    We will! We have lived together for almost 3 years, been together almost 5. But FH is adamant about spending the night before the wedding apart. So we’re driving to rehearsal dinner together, and then he’s dropping me off at the bridesmaid cabin, and he’s going to the groomsmen cabin, and I’ll see him at the top of the aisle the next day!
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  • Sara
    Expert June 2019
    Sara ·
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    This was also a question for us. We've been together for 8 years and lived together for 5, so ... yeah. We decided that I'd rent the bridal suite at the hotel and stay there with any bridesmaids who wanted to join, because we could have it the next morning for prep pictures too. FH will stay at his parents house, with his brother the bestman, and drive over to the hotel to prep there the morning of the wedding. The plans are still a little wishy washy..

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  • J
    Savvy July 2019
    Joanie ·
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    I'm all for the tradition of it, but I will have enough trouble sleeping, and wouldn't sleep at all alone, since I haven't done it for years. I will be up and out early, though, so we won't see each other all day, with a late afternoon ceremony.

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  • Jennifer
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I hate to sleep without my FH but I would be honoring this tradition as well. As much as we will miss each other, I think it would be good to have the alone time and reflect on everything, our love for one another and our exciting next chapter of our lives together Smiley smile

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