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Beginner September 2019

Night before wedding

Lisa, on August 13, 2019 at 4:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

Our wedding is only 10 minutes from our house so we were planning to stay at our house the night of the wedding and then get a hotel for the night of. I have had many people ask if we are staying separate the night before. What did you all do? I get it's tradition to do this or "it's bad luck to see each other the day of," however, we are thinking it's a waste of money. Plus our bridal party wouldn't be able to stay with us so we'd just be alone the night of which sounds lame.

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Latest activity by Adree-Anna, on August 14, 2019 at 12:05 AM
  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
    Ivy ORP ·
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    We're staying together the night before. We will get ready separately and plan a first look, but I can't imagine not waking up together on the day we promise to spend every morning waking up together.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    It's really up to you! Plenty of couples decide to go the nontraditional route

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    We stayed together the night before our wedding in our hotel room. I personally thought it was nice, we were together & slept like normal & calm and woke up refreshed. Then when we got back from the wedding, we were unpacked & all set up in the room already.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    Absolutely not. I sleep like garbage without my husband. I needed to have him the night before.

    We hung out and had brunch before going our separate ways to get ready.
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  • Jill
    Expert April 2020
    Jill ·
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    We are staying together the night of the wedding! It's definitely becoming more popular.

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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    We'll be apart the night before. My FH will drop me and my MOH off at the hotel (we get a comp room). And his best man will stay the night at our house.

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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    We stayed together the night before in the hotel. It isn't bad luck, that's just silly. Don't let people pressure you into something silly.

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  • C
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Chelsea ·
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    I think we will end up staying together since we aren't traveling for the event. It makes more economical sense and honestly one of you could just "sneak out" the morning of to ruin any "bad luck" notion. Whether you're into that or not it makes more sense to spend the night before together.

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  • C
    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    Same situation! Our venue is about 15 minutes away. It seems wasteful and we don't really care about being apart. We also agreed to the night of simply for fun, to feel "pampered" and not have to worry about anything.
    We may get a hotel the night before and stay apart if I end up needing a hotel to get ready in (I, unfortunately, don't get my venue for very long before the ceremony time.) Check in/out is usually 12/11 and if I want it early I will need it from the night before (if they're all booked.)
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  • Rebecca
    Devoted September 2021
    Rebecca ·
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    We’ll definitely be spending the night before the wedding together. We both love our bed too much to be willing to sleep somewhere else when we only live about 30 minutes from the venue.

    For the getting ready, I’ll get ready at my mom’s house and leave my FH to get ready at home.
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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
    Kristin ·
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    My mom is adamant about no contact after midnight... so FH is staying at our house with the dogs (dropping them off at boarding/doggy day care first thing in the AM) and I am staying 30 minutes away at my mom's house (45 min from FIL's). I was thinking about staying with my MOH at her house but that makes a 2+ hour drive to FIL's house (where we are having the wedding) so mom's house it is. I also considered staying at FIL's house for the night but they have quite a bit of family already staying and a quiet night sounds way better than that crazy zoo (don't get me wrong, I love them and its a decent size house...but 10 adults and an 8 year old is just naturally nuts)

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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    Our venue and hotel are also 10 minutes from our house. I plan on staying at the hotel over night, and my fh will stay at our house with our dog and his brother and have a small guys night
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  • Meghan
    Dedicated May 2021
    Meghan ·
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    We also live several minutes from our venue. We were planning on doing one of us staying at a hotel the night before, then that person and their part of the wedding party get ready there.

    The wedding planner/owner of our venue told us her daughter stayed at a hotel the night before with her MOH/sister then the rest came the morning of the wedding. Her daughter also didn't want to stay at her mother's house (which was offered to her) so that they didn't have to worry about messing up her house and cleaning up the mess.

    I don't think theres anything wrong with staying with eachother the night before. My FH's friends stayed the night at their house, both got ready there, and we all took the limo bus to their site for wedding photos then the ceremony/venue
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  • Adree-Anna
    Dedicated November 2020
    Adree-Anna ·
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    Stay the night together if you want to. The superstition comes from a time of arranged marriage where the groom didn't see the bride until the last minute for fear hed think she was ugly and hed call it off. Your FH has already seen you in the morning so I doubt he'll be scared away
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