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T.s., on December 4, 2020 at 9:07 AM Posted in New Jersey Planning 0 7

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Hi Everyone!

Hope you all and your loved ones are keeping safe! I am in need of some advice.
My FH and me are scheduled for a February 2021 wedding at one of the most popular wedding venues in NJ. We have reached out to see how they are handling postponements and back up dates due to COVID. We were told that we will reassess 2 months before and that if the state law/ guidelines permit gatherings that exceed our guaranteed minimum (125) that the wedding will go on as planned.
At this time, NJ is allowing weddings up to 150 people and the venue has stated that they are currently having weddings with this amount. We have a lot of immunocompromised family members (immediate) and expecting couples in the bridal/ groom party. Also, due to our professions in health care, it is not possible to quarantine before.
What can be done? We feel a lot of pressure from the venue to go through with this wedding during such unsafe times as they are sticking to the contract. It seems like they will push to have a wedding during this pandemic or expect us to cancel/ lose all deposits (it’s paid for in full). Even in following the minimum guest list of 125 and following safety measures, our loved ones are at risk.
Has anyone had a similar experience? I would be curious to hear any advice/ feedback.

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Latest activity by M.Y.M, on January 10, 2021 at 2:08 PM

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Lynnie · on December 4, 2020 at 3:03 PM
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I'm so sorry you're dealing with this Tara!
When you have that 2 months out conversation, I'd be firm and ask how you can work together to reschedule the date. Some venues have charged additional postponement fees or restricted the available dates you can reschedule for, but those still seem like better options for you given your profession and guest list! I'd just be kind but firm and see if you can come up with a reasonable plan B together!
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T.s. · on December 4, 2020 at 5:20 PM
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Thank you!!! This is such good advice. We are really hoping the venue will meet us half way. If we are able to postpone and are on the other side of this pandemic, we know the venue would be making a lot more revenue considering we would have about 250-275 guests and more add-ons that we didn’t move forward because of hesitation due to the pandemic. That’s nearly double that they’d receive.
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M.Y.M · on January 3, 2021 at 11:31 PM
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Please keep us posted. I wish you the best of luck and hope your venue is understanding Its extremely stressful and worrisome to have a wedding during these unsafe times. I can empathized. I, too, feel pressure from our venue to move forward with our wedding date and I don't know what to do. I understand how they are probably financially hurting and want us to move forward with our date but its also financially painful to pay a pretty penny for a wedding that isn't exactly what you dreamed of. Weddings are not cheap!
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T.s. · on January 5, 2021 at 8:20 PM
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Thank you for your kind words! When is your wedding date? We requested an in person meeting with our vendor and had an honest and open conversation. We were very lucky and they were understanding. They allowed us to postpone with additional fees and paying the rates for the year we will eventually when this is all over (hopefully!!). With the additional time it enables us to save for the difference. I know that this is not the case for everyone and many couples have a huge majority of their finances tied up in wedding costs. Is your venue still holding weddings?
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Just Said Yes July 2022
M.Y.M · on January 6, 2021 at 12:46 PM
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Hi Tara, thank you for replying! Yes, our venue is still hosting weddings (up to 150 in NJ) which is good news. However, I just found out a couple of my family members got covid and it’s scary. Atm, I’ve only paid the deposit money so I’m not if I should take the lost and have something small or move forward, pay the rest and have the wedding of my dreams 20whenever lol hopefully our venue will let us push back our date prior to April (they're re-evaluating the status of a weddings 3-4months out from the set WD) I’m waiting to hear back, fingers-crossed!
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T.s. · on January 9, 2021 at 10:03 AM
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Hello!

See what your venue says— if you do not feel comfortable scaling down or moving forward, your venue may let you postpone since they are handling 3-4 months in advance. Your venue may also allow you to transfer/ roll over the deposit but ask for you to pay an increase in service/ fees, which can be feasible depending on financial situation. When we emailed and spoke over the phone it felt like we were getting a bit of a runaround— understandably so, the whole wedding industry is struggling and are equally as worried as we are. Once you know the details about potential postponement, you will be able to see which of the outcomes work best for you and your partner.
Sending you positive vibes!
T
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Just Said Yes July 2022
M.Y.M · on January 10, 2021 at 2:08 PM
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Thank you so much for your reply! I truly appreciate your positive vibes. I think we are comfortable scaling down but only if our venue doesn’t overcharge us. We’re scared of pay for a wedding of 150 people when only 70 come/rsvp. Hopefully our venue will work with us and be understanding.
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