No Bridal Shower?

Yes, it’s wrong to throw a shower (or any other gift giving event) for yourself.

I am not having a shower, or a bachelorette. No one offered to throw me either. I am pretty sad about it but am just trying to stay positive and focus on the wedding.

We are not having a shower because no one offered to throw us one. I do think throwing yourself a shower is tacky, even if you cater.

I don't ever respond to posts however I wanted to let you know that I am not having a shower, either mostly because I don't want one, and I don't' feel it is necessary to have yet another party. I am also in agreement with those who already responded, I think throwing yourself a shower is not a good idea. My opinion is it is tacky and makes you look a little greedy. Just try to focus on all the love and affection you will receive on your wedding day! It will be amazing, I just know it

Since the point of a wedding shower is to “shower” the bride/couple with gifts I don’t think it would be very tactful to throw your own. Mine were fun but if I hadn’t had them it wouldn’t have been a big deal, they’re not really necessary. I’d save my money for the wedding rather than hosting a shower! Think of all the thank you notes you won’t have to write lol

I wouldn't throw one for myself. I had a bridal shower last month and honestly, I could have done without it. I invited 40 people and only 4 showed up. We (yes, I chipped in on cost) spent money on invites, stamps, decoration, food, drinks, backdrop, a card box, games, etc. There really weren't enough people for games and hardly any of the food got ate because of such a little turn out.

I think if you can't do one - that's fine. People will bring gifts/gift cards/money to your wedding.

As the PPs have said, you shouldn't host your own shower. It's not a big deal not to have one though! I declined to have one because me and my husband already had everything we needed and I felt it was unnecessary. In place of a shower, my sister gathered some aunts, cousins and girlfriends for a fun night of pottery painting and pizza in NJ where I'm from, and my MIL had a lunch with my new aunts out here in Pittsburgh. Both were meant to be no-gift events. Perhaps you can talk to your BMs about traveling to them and having a fun night in, just the three of you, where you rent a movie, open a bottle of wine and share a pizza? It's a nice cheap alternative to the traditional bridal shower or bachelorette party that still allows you to experience some of the fun events leading up to your big day.

My mom really wanted to throw me a shower but it just didn't happen (very spread out people, family drama 🤷🏼‍♀️). But my love aunts are throwing a bridal luncheon the day before the wedding. It's basically a shower just without the gifts and since its so close everyone will already be in town for the wedding.