No Bridal Shower?!

Bridal showers are not required. I did not have one. We did not have any registry either.

I think it is pretty common not to have one anymore especially for a DW. Instead maybe you can invite the ladies out to dinner before the trip. Something pre wedding that's milder than as bachelorette party but with no gifts.

There's no need to have a BS. And you DEFINITELY don't ask people to the BS if they aren't invited to the wedding- that's basically saying "Hey! Buy me things!"

I wouldn't stress about not having one if you want to see people beforehand for a little celebration, you can always just invite some people over for brunch or something similar!

We are getting married in September and I am not having a bridal shower...we also live together and don't need/want anything. I'm also with you on the "cheese" factor of bridal shower games and what not. I would feel the same way as you as thinking it's rude to invite people to the shower who aren't invited to the actual wedding. Trends have definitely changed in the 'wedding world' and quite a few people are straying from bridal showers. I wouldn't worry about it

I'm with ya on the no registry! We aren't either.

I did have a BS, but it was more a celebratory party with my family and pals than something super gift-focused. i asked the hosts to pass on the message that gifts were totally optional and they also gave the choice for folks to give a bottle of wine, since it was a wine tasting theme. i didn't open my presents at the shower, and we didn't have any games other than the wine tasting. it was a lot of fun and pretty low-key. i think we're moving toward a time of broader options for this sort of party, if someone offers to throw you one.