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Dedicated October 2019

No dress code on invitation?

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Jennifer future Mrs. K-H, on July 30, 2019 at 2:24 PM

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I'm writing up the wording for our enclosure cards for our invitations (to go out this weekend!) but can't decide what to put as our dress code. Our ceremony is at 2pm in mid October. Our ceremony is taking place in my fiance's church, and the reception is immediately after at a banquet hall. We are having a DJ, no valet parking, and only beer&wine open bar, however, I am wearing a satin Aline gown and my FH is wearing a tux. We are serving a plated dinner. My bridesmaids are wearing floor length gowns and his groomsmen are wearing tuxes with satin lapels. What dress code should I put? I'm thinking of just not putting anything down and, knowing our friends and family, some will show up in dark suits, cocktail dresses or floor length dresses anyway. If you received an invitation to a wedding without a dress code, knowing the season, location, and time of day, what would you wear? Thanks.

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Super October 2019
NextChapterReady · on July 31, 2019 at 1:39 PM
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I think black tie optional definitely is more about the style of clothing and in my crowd semi-formal does reference cocktail attire. So maybe it's a know your crowd thing! But yes, for black tie optional it's always been my experience of you can wear as fancy as black tie, and as casual as cocktail dress!
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on July 31, 2019 at 1:44 PM
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Our wedding was super similar to how you described yours (bar situation, bride/groom/bridesmaid/groomsmen attire, etc). We did not put a dress code on the invitation itself but on our website we said semi-formal attire and recommended a cocktail dress, jacket and tie, or something comparable. People definitely found it helpful that we listed specific attire that was appropriate rather than JUST saying “semi formal” alone, because that means something different to everyone!

But also personally if I was invited to a wedding with no dress code listed I would wear exactly that, anyway. Cocktail dress, and I’d have husband wear either a suit or a jacket and tie
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Master October 2019
Jolie · on July 31, 2019 at 2:47 PM
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I always wear semi-formal attire to a wedding because I am about appearances and doing the proper thing. Other people literally don't feel so inclined. Our friend wore jeans to our other friends' wedding because he didn't have pants that fit. I am sorry what? You knew about the wedding for a year. I would just put semi-formal attire on your info card not the invite itself. Or your wedding website.
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