No Financial Help

We are also paying for everything ourselves. It is seriously stressful when you are on a tight budget especially when we only have 3 months left until the wedding and only 2 months to get the big stuff completely finished and payed for. But trust me, you got this. Keep your head up and enjoy your beautiful day. You absolutely deserve it!

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Sounds like you guys have your heads and hearts in the right spots. Your wedding will be beautiful and worth the wait. So kind of you to help the sis in law, and have a huge heart and not be spiteful even if shes getting help and you arent. That's what i'm talking about. Do without expectations of anything in return. A good deed is its own reward.

Thanks girl! yes, things add up quick!

My fiancé and I are paying for everything ourselves and my parents will buy the alcohol.

Yes! I'm 100% with you here. It is sad, and honestly I've struggled with being bitter about the whole thing. Try not to let money or all of the details cloud the reason for the whole day. Once you're husband and wife all of the struggle will be worth it. Congratulations to you and no matter what, it will be beautiful and you will be also!

Personally, I'd prefer no financial help, though I'm thankful of the bit I received. But, I've heard horror stories of brides and grooms receiving financial help and then they say they "have to do this" or "That" because they received that help. Thankfully, the bit we received had a clause that said "Do whatever you want with it" which to be honest, if that clause wasn't there, I wouldn't have accepted it. Wedding Planning is stressful enough without having to deal with added stress of giving someone else what they want because they gave you financial help. It was nice of them, but it's still your wedding. You should get the wedding you really want, otherwise what's the point? right?

Anyways, I'm so sorry that you are having issues getting the last of your items, but I'm happy that you are keeping your head held high. Paying for a wedding is no small feight, and you should be very proud of yourself and your FH for doing it all by yourselves. That's a really great feeling to be able to say you accomplished this on your own, together, as a team, with no debt. That's a great way to start your lives together.

So happy for you, congratulations!

We are paying for everything ourselves too. I never expected help from anyone for our wedding because my FH's parents are barely scraping by and we often help them out financially and I don't have a relationship with my family. My family probably would be able to comfortably contribute to our wedding but I doubt that they ever would regardless of how great my relationship with them was. I purposely wanted to set our date far out (2020/2021) so that we could have time to slowly cover the costs of our wedding and hopefully not have to stress about the money portion of the planning. I'm looking forward to throwing a really nice party for our friends and family to enjoy and it will be one of the first "big white weddings" on my FH's side of the family.

I think that what bothers me the most is the relationship issues with my family, not the fact that they wouldn't contribute money to the wedding. It would be nice to have a supportive relationship with family where they were excited about the wedding at least.

You've put a lot of time, energy and money into your wedding and I know that it will be beautiful! It's no small feat organizing a wedding and be proud of YOUR accomplishment!!

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Yes!! I see that so often on here - all of the suggestions and advice from those who have the help of family paying for things. I do have a little help (my dad is paying for the venue) but everything else is on me and FH in addition to the fact that life doesn't stop and bills still have to get paid. It's all a bit stressful. But I'll look back and be so happy that we pulled it off with no debt.

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I was very surprised to hear that parents pay for their weddings when I joined WW. In my island that's not an option lol unless they have tons of money. We paid it ourselves and I feel damn proud!!!! I'll feel even more proud when we look back and say "We did that" not our parents.

I am in the same boat. Both of us have lost our parents and grandparents, so it's all on us. It is definitely overwhelming at times.

View Quoted Comment Amen sister! Same!

Happy Wedding Day!!! I hope all the built up stress melts away and you and your FH get to enjoy this beautiful and wonderful day together and will remember forever!!

Same boat, but like the above comment we started planning more than a year in advance so that we can stay on budget. Now only 90 days left to go!!

View Quoted Comment Not trying to come off rude but a GoFundMe account should not be a tool to raise money for a wedding. If anything you should have the wedding you can afford even if that means small and simple or save until you can afford to have the wedding you want. Personally, the only way I would donate to a GoFundMe for a wedding is if someone was battling a serious illness and it was their desire to get married before the situation turned worst. Just my opinion no shade at all.

I completely understand your pain, we are paying for our wedding too. It is kind of sad we dont have help, but I keep reminding myself, we have the finances more than our parents and I dont want to cause them to be broke.

Not alone girl! My father spent my entire life telling me that he’d help pay for my wedding and when I got engaged last summer he acted like he had no idea what I was talking about!! Anyway, it has been tough and hard watching others but we can’t compare ourselves to others.


f my calculations are correct you should be married now, congrats love!!!

No help for me either with anything but I'm ok with it cause when parents give u money it usually has opinions with it and I didn't want anyone opinions but my soon to be hubby. Our wedding day is today just like urs!! Live it up!!

View Quoted Comment I dont agree. Gofundme is just a fund raising site for whatever you want. Our society and media has put a spotlight on those who use it to help others. The "me" in gofundme was the original thought. Please help me with what ever cause, bills, vacation, etc Im trying to do. It evolved when people started to use it for things outside themselves.

As long as you state the true purpose why not try. Some people would love to help if they knew you needed help.

I give you major kudos. I have had some help from my family and my fiances family and I'm still getting overwhelmed with everything. My parents paid for the venue which was 3200 and his parents are paying for the shuttle which is 675 but everything else (remaining 10k) is all us. It will be so worth it though. Your wedding will be beautiful. Don't stress the small stuff (Decoration wise I got real lucky and my venue includes most decorations, this is destination for us so it really helped) but all remaining decorations my matron of honor and I have been making for the last 6 months from random stuff we've collected. If you got your vendors paid for thats what matters. Hopefully you do get some money back after the wedding. That's what we are banking on too!

View Quoted Comment Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. As for me if I had to start the path to marriage with asking or expecting anyone else to help me get there, I would really rethink things. Secondly, my husband would never want us to look like a charity case by asking for hand outs. I believe in doing things that you can afford or wait until you can!!!! I would be more willing to help someone who is having a fundraiser because that mean that they are actively doing something in order to get the money they need for the things that they want.