No friends but need bridesmaids

There’s no rule that the sides have to be even. It’s so unlikely that any couple has the exact same number of close friends/family. Just have the people you feel closest to and don’t worry about numbers.

You don't have to have the same amount on both sides! Ask the girls who you love and want standing beside you, if that's more/less than his, that is so okay! I think it will backfire asking people who you aren't extremely close to to be in your wedding.

I don’t think it’s awkward at all to ask acquaintances. Especially the fact that two of those acquaintances are now going to be your new family members technically.


I wouldn’t try to talk him out of it though because he seems pretty keen on having the specific people and it probably means a lot to him judging from your post. It’s 2021. You could even go on gig salad and rent 4 girls as bridesmaids LOL. I also don’t think it would look weird if it was just you up there and then him with his four.

I agree with pp. Also you can have his 4 guys only and have 2 stand on his side and 2 stand on your side, if you wanna make it look symmetrical. I wouldn't ask the girls you described because there's really no strong connection with you. On your day you should have people you can't imagine being without.

It’s not weird. When you ask them, let them know that even though you haven’t known them long, you value their friendship and think this will be fun and a way to get to know each other better.
And really think about what you expect from them, and what they are able to do with ease.

"Is it weird to ask aquaintences to be bridesmaids or should I just convince my fiance to not do a bridal party at all and avoid the awkwardness?"

I would do neither. Asking acquaintances to be in your bridal party probably won't have the results you want (just ready any of the zillion posts on here about brides who asked people for the wrong reasons). And your fiancé can still have groomsmen even if you don't have bridesmaids. As others said, there's no reason to need "even sides."

I understand wanting to have more friends, but friends aren't something you go out and pick just for your wedding. Relationships have to be built over time with a real foundation based on more than wedding photos.

My best friend's husband asked my FH to be his groomsman because he had nobody else, and they aren't necessarily "friends." They've hung around each other and texted a couple of times, but it's not like my FH goes out of his way to like, hang out with her husband. It worked out well, we were both in the bridal party so he didn't have to sit around (wedding was out of state) while I was getting ready. As long as you are comfortable with those people, then I say ask them. But don't do it just because you want to match him. There can be so many potential problems with a group like that if something goes wrong.

You don't have to have even numbers! I actually have 4 girls and my FH has 2 guys. We are still debating on what we want to do when they walk down the aisle. We were thinking that the guys will have one girl on each arm or two of the bridesmaids will walk down together. Or we were even thinking that one girl will walk with the ring bearer and the other with the flower girls. It's still a work in progress. But if you feel like you don't want anyone in your bridal party that is completely fine! Maybe the other guys can stand on your side so it looks even?

Just be mindful of just asking anyone. Would you expect anything from them? Because some may be helpful while others will not care, but to show up the day of.

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Agree with this. Pick who you are closest to.

Thanks all!

I agree. Either pick those you are closest to and If you dont like uneven sides, its not weird to ask acquaintances. I had a very small number of friends and none I was super close to or best friends with. Some we grew closer together after asking them to be a bridesmaid. If I had absolutely no one to be a BM, I would have asked family his or mine. Just be confident in your decision. You dont want to look at wedding pics 10 years from now and say hm look at my random bridesmaids. It is what u make it, with the right people it may help you create a lasting bond.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this too!

Not sure if this would work in your case, but you can also invite men you are close to to participate on your side! Don’t have to stick with brides-maids-