No Friends for Bachelorette Party

I didn’t have a bachelorette party. Covid was a good excuse not to, but honestly, I don’t really have enough close girlfriends (who also like that kind of thing and know each other) to do a bachelorette party. It just doesn’t make sense for everyone. If you don’t have close friends or family, I would really try to let go of the image you have in mind for that type of event. As far as wedding planning, FH should be more involved. He should care because you care and need support. Voice this to him and ask for more help and input from him. No one will care as much of the two of you. My wedding planning was 100% us - no parental input or friends help or extra parties just our wedding day.

I am not doing bachelorette party or bridal shower for that same reason, I don’t have any friend since I’ve arrived here in the US, at least is something I will save money to put into our wedding day 🥰 cheer up!

I also don’t have anybody that is interested or not busy with work to talk about how excited I am with wedding plans, other than annoy my fiancé every day with my insights lol… but at the end of the day, I am happy that I will be marrying him.

I sympathize with you, as all the friends that I thought I had were either not my true friend or I have outgrown our friendship because of the direction that life took me versus them. So at this point I won't be having a bridal shower or a bachelorette party either. It's like I have told my FH that the only ones I really "hang out:" with are him and my nearly 9 year old son.

It really sucks realizing how many people we are there for but yet how many people are not there for us especially during this "happy time" for us.

You absolutely don't have to have one of these! I have a friend who is getting married and they're having a smaller guest list, so she is inviting any females invited to the wedding to her bachelorette. I had another friend who instead of a bachelorette, just got together with her mom, aunts, grandma, and had a dinner and they gave her advice and shared memories.

I suggest having a self spa day when you FH goes to his bach wknd. Get a massage, wrap, nails/etc done. You don't need friends to go with you for a day of pampering! Go for your favorite meal or eat in and do your favorite thing!

View Quoted Comment This is a great suggestion.

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Oooo I like this idea! Have a "treat yourself" day!

Feel free to chat about wedding stuff here!

View Quoted Comment Great idea on just letting go of the image. 💜

Do something amazing for yourself, whatever that may be.

Do you have online friends? If so, maybe plan a zoom party - you could even send them a pretty box of snacks or something, and get together over zoom to hang out. Yes, you'd be hosting, but it would be a time to celebrate anyway.

Maybe ask your finance if you could do a couple's day. I know you said you didn't want to do shooting, but I'm sure there is something you both have always wanted to do.

I’m in the same boat. I don’t feel I have any close friends. The two ladies I consider friends are hit and miss. I didn’t feel close enough to have them in my bridal party so I only have my sister (MOH & only bridal party member). She lives in a different state and has two girls so I don’t want to bother her with unnecessary things or expenses. She offered to host a bridal shower & bachelorette but I admitted I don’t have anyone to invite. You are definitely not alone.

View Quoted Comment No online friends as of yet. But I do like the idea of doing something fun or nice for myself.
After putting in a lot of thought I think I want to go to our local pottery place!

View Quoted Comment I’m glad to know I’m not alone but hope you find something special for your day! 💜

Late to this thread but I wanted to ask how it went if there's any chance you read this - did you do something to celebrate or just let the idea go? I'm struggling with this right now. My only 2 friends live in another state and I'm not sure if it's worth traveling for a small get together. It gets me down because I want to have more friends and go out more, but I just haven't been able to make close connections since I moved right before covid hit. My FH has SO many guy friends, like at least a dozen quite close friends I can name off the top of my head that would throw him an amazing bachelor party. I'm jealous ): I still want him to have a good time even if it's not in my cards, but man it's hard.

View Quoted Comment Hi Zoe,
I ended up letting the idea go altogether.
In the end it wasn’t a terrible thing because I was so busy closer to the wedding and didn’t even have time for much.If I really think about it, it might be a little sad and disappointing I didn’t have that experience…however, life will have other fun and exciting things to enjoy! Hope all is going well in your wedding journey! ❤️

View Quoted Comment Love this! Thank you!

Take a day or weekend to do all the things you like to do. Get your nails done, get a facial, get a massage, and go to your favorite restaurant. Treat yourself girl!

Old thread, but I want to reply for anyone else that might be going through this! (As I am now.) I really, really would love to be able to have what it seems everyone else is doing but am a little lacking in close girl friends (specifically at this special point in my life lol). What I keep reminding myself is that I’m doing my own version of this. I got along really well with my fiancé’s college buddies (I went to school with them as well). And all of them are in relationships, too. They live allll over the country now so my fiancé isn’t doing a Bach party either, we’re just all getting a lakehouse for about 5 days near our venue and having a good time! They all have girls now, which makes it even better. So it’s not a bachelorette party, I won’t be celebrating my singleness with pink cowgirl boots on (not enticing when I think of it). But it fits me and my situation!


I’d say for anyone, if you want you want to be celebrated, don’t be afraid to ask. If there are people in your life - new friends or even people you don’t know super well - I think it’s worth an ask. (Kind) people are usually flattered that you want them to be a part of your celebration and it could even be the beginning of a long-term friendship. Could just be a night out for drinks, not a whole mini-vacation where you force your friends to drop a grand (or more). It’s all about you and your life partner anyways!!