No Honeymoon here.....

Try Zola ! Zola lets you do cash funds that you can label as certain things such as house fund or whatever you wanna use it for

If you already know who you want to use, then they should provide a link when you get set up with them.

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I have Honeyfund already. I did look at Zola. I've already spent so much time on Honeyfund that I really do not want to start over. I was getting a little overwhelmed trying to figure out how to just ask for monatary donations and not gift cards. Hate gift cards. They always get lost. lol

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I wanted to use Venmo. They did not offer that. Do you know how I can just do it myself?

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I would just not. If guests want to gift cash, they will do that or write a check. Providing a link to your Venmo seems a little tacky.

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I appreciate the response. I was trying to find ways not to be "that guy". I know I will have many quests that are out of town and will not be able to travel here. Would you even send them an invite? I don't want to feel bad for not letting them know about my wedding..

If you have no registry, most people will default to a cash gift, so generally people advise that setting up a fund and letting them keep a percentage isn’t necessary. I would never give someone gift cards unless I knew that it was something the recipient would definitely use, and with a couple that’s harder because it should be a gift for both parties. I wouldn’t bother setting up a fund, maybe just put a blurb on your wedding website or let people in your family/wedding party spread the word that in lieu of physical gifts you are working towards x goal - for example buying a house, or whatever it may be.

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Great advise. I'm on here now trying to figure out the best way to not look "tacky"

Yes we have we link to our website to honey fund .

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We are getting married in Nov 2020. Have you sent out your invites yet? I don't want to do it too early or too late.

View Quoted Comment It’s definitely a generational thing, my grandmother was horrified that honeymoon funds and such were becoming popular. To me, if you’re telling your guests what the fund is for I feel like I’m helping you two reach a goal, rather than just maybe I paid your electric bill this month. The people you’re inviting know you and love you.

View Quoted Comment If you want them to come, invite them. If you don’t want them to come, don’t invite them. Not inviting them to your wedding doesn’t mean that you’re hiding it from them.

View Quoted Comment We sent invites out 12 weeks prior to our wedding because everyone needs accommodations for the night before and it’s a tourist town. We also sent Save the Date cards around Christmas so people could plan ahead, and we know a few did.
Most invites go out around 8 weeks in advance unless it’s a destination wedding, then 12 weeks. Also pay attention to when you need a final count for vendors. We have only 24 groups to follow up with if needed, so out RSVP deadline is five days before we need a final count, but if you have more guests allow yourself enough time to follow up with anyone you don’t hear from.

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Yes. I defiantly do not want them thinking they are "paying a bill". Thank you .

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We have our max at 125 guests. Between she and I, we are over that. Now it is a selection process. I know some quests can't make it, or might not want to travel just yet. So, I'm really thinking our total RSVPs may be much lower than expected. We will know more in the months to come.,

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thank you.

View Quoted Comment Why don’t you want to use the honey fund or Zola ? Besides a transaction fee they charge, those would be pretty typical cash funds to use

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I have Honeyfund already. Was just looking for other opinions. I like what they have and how site looks.

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Did you do Invites 12 weeks out? Or save the date? We wanted to do Save the Date 12 weeks out. Then send out Invitations to those that responded. I feel like we are asking them twice some how.

Why lose money through a transaction fee? People have never been confused about how to give cash/check. If you don't have a registry then your guests will default to cash. If your FW is having a shower then she may register for some items.