No immediate family..anyone else?

No, i have the opposite issue... i am ONLY close with my immediate family and one grandmother and one uncle... i barely know my cousins and other aunts/uncles... hardly any of the extended family will be getting invites to my wedding since i don't even talk to them like ever (i don't even get Christmas cards from them) not since i was like 4-5 years old.

Semi. I'm only close with my mom. Not close with siblings or my father. I plan on inviting only my mom to our tiny ceremony.

When I and dh eloped, my family wasn’t there. Because dh’s mom influenced my dh to not invite my family. I and dh don’t have any issue with my family. Now the table has turned. We plan for intimate wedding and his toxic family is NOT invited. If they show up I will walk away.

Totally relate. Both fiancé and I don’t have contact with our families (I’m close with some of my siblings). We have a close friend group which my fiancé and I view as our “family of choice”. I’ve noticed most people have at least some family they don’t speak to or have strenuous relationships with and are understanding and don’t pry. I don’t go out of my way to tell people our situation because it’s just normal for us, but if people do ask I just say “no they’re not in our life”. When planning our micro wedding and reading advice on here I just replace “immediate family” with the people in our life who we’re closest to

My husband. Our wedding was my best friend her husband and my big brother. Sometimes we're not close to family. There are some family members that don't know I got married and may find out through fbook of I choose to share.

I'm only close with my parents. All other family members are toxic. My hubby isnt really close with his either, their true colors have been revealed.

Not me but my daughter & her wife. Her father (the doner as she lovingly calls him), the majority of her dad’s side of the family & my daughter in law’s mother are against their marriage. I’ve told them both the weekend that they married that their core group that are there are their family. We all might not be blood but we are family!

I'm close with majority of my family, but my husbands family has shown their true colors so he's distanced himself from them.

Yes, and we call it "framily".

This is all a mix of reasons, too. I'm an only child, AND a lot of my family is toxic, so I'm only close to my dad, my stepmom, and a handful of younger cousins who see the bad family patterns on my mom's side. On TOP of that, my dad lives 2500 miles away.

DH and I are in theatre, so many of our framily did not grow up in the NYC area, so they are physically distant from blood family... and, of course, sometimes disowned for being who they are. (Not all, I'm very glad to know that many of my framily have supportive blood family, as well.)

Now, my ILs actually live here, too, and they are great, but that's unusual for our group.

Family is who loves you.

I have a relationship with my sister, but honestly it’s not substantial. We will text a few times every few months. I chose friends for my wedding party and did not include her as she really isn’t the type of support I wanted to honor. It hurt my parents that I chose that, but I didn’t want someone standing beside me simply out of obligation or for our parents sake.

We only had about 35 people at our wedding due to having to downsize, and the only member of my husband's actual family that was there was his dad. He has much closer relationships with some of his friends and their parents, who got to join us.

My FH has this family setup. His dad isn't in the picture, his mom passed 10 years ago and he only really talks to jmhis brother, who has severe memory and personality issues. His family consists of his coworkers and friends, so he may only have a couple family members present at our wedding. I think the people you choose as family are just as important as blood relatives and can sometimes support you more.

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That makes perfect sense and yes I agree, it's who loves and supports you.