No-kid Rule Is Upsetting Too Many People

You are not horrible! This is your day and you should get what you want. The only kids we have allowed at our wedding are my 3 cousins who are between 9 and 14, and my dad's cousin's 5 kids, two of which are our flower girl and ring bearer, so we invited the whole family. That's it. Stick to your guns. If it upsets people, so be it. They can make a decision to find a babysitter or not come. It isn't uncommon for weddings to be adults only.

I dont think it is at all. I think a lot of people (family included) forget it's not their wedding, so it's not their choice. Plus they typically arent the ones that's paying for the extra seats/place settings food etc. Stand your ground (Politely). Don't let anyone try to make you feel guilty or pressured into giving in. You dont have to be a "bridevilla or be rude", but you can be firm. I really wish people were more understanding. We have a few kids in our wedding party & other people are like "oh put my kid in the wedding" -_-. Some of the people that suggested, I don't even know their kid.

Best wishes & congrats!

Seriously? Wow.

Your children, I don't care how special they are--they are not entitled to be everywhere. Especially someone else's event. Children are not allowed in bars or casinos. In fact, children should not be allowed to be at movie theaters past 9p.m, but I digress.

There are just certain venues that children shouldn't be at and you should respect the wishes of the hosts. It's your problem if you think your kids are entitled to someone else's party. Newsflash, not everyone enjoys your kids the way you do. You may think your kids are well behaved, but they're just attention hogs.

It's not personal.

If you take it personally that your kids can't attend, I think you're acting like an entitled petty betty. If the bride and groom don't want you to be preoccupied with your kids at their event.

But there is a big difference between a 3 and 7-year-old vs a 14 and 17-year-old.

I think the 14 and 17-year-old may be hurt, and I could see you and your kids being HURT about it because it feels like you are intentionally excluding them and they are old enough to know what is going on.

If the kids are old enough to feel excluded, please have a conversation about this event and let them know you still care. This can ruin a relationship with a young niece or nephew or cousin that you are close with.

And? That's your opinion.

I don't think you are being selfish at all. I am sure I will have to deal with the same issue when my wedding comes closer.

My two children will be at the ceremony (flower girl and ring bearer), then they will join us for dinner, but after that...they will be leaving (plus it will be late and I am sure they will be tired and cranky by this point.)

I want my fiance and I and our friends/family to be able to enjoy ONE EVENING together without worry to filter what we do or say.

My RSVP's read:

"Although we would love to celebrate with your entire family, please limit attendance to adults only"

Well said!

I missed my cousin's wedding in 2015 because no kids were allowed and I had just given birth 2 weeks before. Last night I was part of a wedding where no kids were permitted. There is nothing wrong with you not having children present but it is something to said about the delivery in which you respond to people. My cousin told me "she didn't want kids crying at her wedding" with attitude and that upset me. My other cousin called each person with children personally and explained there were no kids permitted. People will be upset but it is your day and it's what you want essentially.