No kiddos at our wedding

I don't think a 5 month old is an exception - I actually think that's about the age I'm most against being there. I have a friend who will have her baby next month, so her baby will be around 5 months by the time of my wedding - he isn't an exception to the no kids rule, and she is MORE than okay with that. I know I will adore her baby, but I still don't want to have a 5 month old baby-talking or screaming/crying dying my wedding, or have the parents be tending to them instead of enjoying themselves. By that age, mom and dad may just want a break and be all for getting a babysitter for the wedding. My guests with babies have been the most excited about my no kids allowed rule!

The only thing I would think about is if they are coming in from France? I don't know the circumstances or if there would be someone to watch their baby here, in which case I would say that you may need to make an exception if you really want them there, unfortunately!

But as someone who also isn't allowing kids at their wedding, I think a 5 month old is a poster child for the 'no kids' rule - def not an exception LOL. I would rather have a 5 year old than a 5 month old! Just my opinion!

But to answer your actual question, I would try to let that be something your fiancé is in charge of! Just have him tell the SIL/BIL that unfortunately, you don't want kids/babies there and you hope that they can make accommodations because you'd love to have them there to celebrate with you - hey, use Covid as an excuse. Say you have to account for every guest and you are limited!

I have mixed feelings on this. We are doing an adults only wedding, so no children are invited. However, my good friend is pregnant and will have a 2 month old baby at the time of our wedding, and I talked to her and told her that it would be her decision if she wanted to bring her baby or leave him with a babysitter because I felt that a 2 month old is a little too new and some mothers may have a hard time leaving them behind. With a 5 month old, it's kind of on the cusp of a child being okay to be separated from the parents and not. While some mothers are totally fine with returning to work and normal life activities without their babies, others really struggle with it. I know of both kinds of mothers, so I've seen things handled both ways. I think you need to really evaluate everyone's feelings in the situation. While it IS your wedding, does your FH maybe want the baby there and he's not being vocal about it? Are the parents of said baby nervous to leave the baby with someone else right now? I'd try to understand where they are coming from. If it's just that they want to bring their baby and you and your FH agree that you don't really want the baby there, put your foot down. But if there are other reasons or even if your FH wants the baby there, re-evaluate that decision.

Agreed! There shouldn't be an exception one way or another! If your wedding is adult only, it's adult only. Not adult only, except for my friends kids, or my brother's kids, or the one with a kid under 1, there's NO kids allowed. You don't have to accommodate anyone with children, that's the reason the parent's are told it's adult only beforehand. Most parents will understand that they either need to arrange childcare for the event, or the don't come. It's not personal! I think it's rude to ask that your child be the exception to a rule at a wedding.