No kids wedding drama

Thanks everyone for your concerns! Yes he's definitely standing his ground with everyone. Haven't heard much from his mom. Should be getting her RSVP soon and see if she's coming to the wedding. Just trying to be the bigger person. It's really hard!!! Especially when the rudeness and disrespect is coming from multiple directions.

Nothing you can do. I'm probably having no kids and my sister says her daughter and husband will stay home then. she's being stubborn and won't let us get her a babysitter

I think her response was bitchy. There was a way she could have said she wouldn't be going then without saying it the way she said it. Oh well.

I don't get why people can't respect the choices the couple makes. It's so freakin rude. I know this is going to happen to me. I'm making zero exceptions and I know certain family members will have a problem.

I am guessing that people that want a no kid wedding/reception don't have kids of their own. I am a mom and I love kids so I am thrilled that there will be tons of kids at my wedding. I am having a special tables for them with things for them to do.

Kudos to you for standing your ground so politely! At my first wedding, someone wrote their kid's name in, then when we called to let them know told us they didn't have a sitter....like you can't find a sitter for a 6 year old on a saturday with two months' notice! We missed them (not) at the wedding!

Perfect response! Hopefully the FH momma drama is over too.

@FutureAbbey couples make that decision for many reasons, not just because they don't have kids. I know for us it was partially about budget. Our venue did not charge as much for kids as they did for adults however, we decided we would rather invite a few more of our friends than spend the money to include kids. Thankfully I got very little push back from any of our guests on this. The majority respected our decision.

@FutureAbbey not all weddings are for kids most of the time they will just get bored. I believe most weddings are for adults. Personally i went to wedding a few months ago where the kids were running around on the dance floor while the adults wanted to drink and dance. Not everyone controls their little ones so thats definitely a mess I prefer not to deal with.

It's very relevant. Do you think of the parents that don't typically leave their child with just anyone. For me my kids have never stayed with anyone who isn't family.

Not to mention if they have to travel to come to your wedding. Hell no would I leave my kids for someone's wedding. If my kids aren't welcome then your wedding isn't special enough for me to attend. Just how it is.

Then you just dont attend.

I have 4 and my youngest is now 8. However I come from a huge family and there will be kids as young as 5 months at my wedding. I guess being a mother makes a difference it's not about getting drunk and acting a fool.

Abbey, if your YOUNGEST is eight and you've never had them stay without you or family, then you gotta maybe loosen the reigns a bit. Damn.

Also no one has an adults only wedding just to be drunk and act like a fool.

Where the hell did you pull that from?

FutureAbbey- I disagree. Not about getting drunk and acting a fool, but it is up to every bride to choose the atmosphere they want for their wedding. We want a more adult environment that doesn't include children running around knocking into people. That doesn't make me bad. You want a wedding where children are included. That doesn't make you bad. This makes us different. There isn't anything wrong about it. What's wrong with your post is you assume that only people without kids wouldn't want them at their wedding. You are wrong. Don't push your views on other people and we won't judge you for yours. This shouldn't be a heated topic.

Hmmm... I have a toddler and we've been invited to 5 weddings, since she's been born. She hasn't been invited to or attended a single one of them.

At weddings. I like to enjoy myself on the dance floor and socialize with friends. My alcohol limit is at most 2 glasses of wine, in one evening.

My FH and I don't have kids..

If we included kids then that would've been an additional 40 guests.

To properly host our adult guests we chose not to include kids.

Also, we are wanting an adult vibe.

We're feeding our guests, providing entertainment, and alcohol. Take it as a date night with your SO.

If guests can not find proper accommodations for their children for a couple of hours to be apart of my FH getting married then it wasn't special enough to them... which is fine with us.

Side note:

The first in the text message has 3 children. 13, 15, and 17.

So, prior to motherhood, women just go to weddings to get drunk and act like a fool?

Guess I'm doing that wrong, then!

I've been to one wedding since turning 21. I have no children, outside of my cats. I didn't get drunk. I didn't act like a fool. I enjoyed a nice meal with my family, congratulated my aunt, and got FH to dance with me.

It's also nice to know that motherhood tames a woman and she can't go out and have a good time because the alcoholic temptation of a good time will be too strong!

That was quite a reach from "as a parent, if my child isn't invited, I'm not going."

Abbey, I have a 3 year old daughter and she is my everything. Being a mother doesn't make a difference because at the end of the day, if my friend/family member asks for no kids, then that means it's going to be an adult affair, so probably something I wouldn't even want her to *attempt* to sit through.

Also I don't know what kind of weddings you had in mind, but when adults act like adults that typically doesn't involve "acting a fool" or necessarily "getting drunk".

Ha. Ok Abbey. As a mother...pssshhh.

I'm a mom. I love celebrating with kids.

I love celebrating without too.

An opportunity to spend an evening with DH or even a girls night out is what saves my sanity.

As a guest, I am honored to be invited. I respect them and their decision.

Careful, that high horse is standing in quicksand....