No Kids Wording

Please let us know if you need assistance finding a babysitter, as our wedding will be just us adults!

On the invitations we just simply added at the very end "Adults only reception to follow"

I wasn't going to put it on my invitations but I agree with FMP's suggestion. Mine will be on the website, spread by word of mouth and on the invitations we will put specifically who is invited. Since we are using WW's online RSVP function, there will be no way for them to add anyone on that wasn't already invited.

Some people say it's rude to mention that it's adults only anywhere, and that you should trust your guests to come with only the people specifically invited on the invitation (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, versus The Smith Family).

If you're going to do it, I'd just keep it simple. "Adult reception to follow" or just put it on the wedding website.

Honestly, I'm not a fan of including it on the invitation at all. If your RSVP cards can fit it, you could include the line about "We have reserved X seats for you". And the invitations should be addressed to the adults only. Then just follow up individually with people who don't seem to get it. I just think it's a little bit of a slap in the face to parents to include the adults only portion on the invitation.

It shouldn't go on the invite at all. You just make out the response cards and address the invitation to the EXACT people you are inviting.

We put "The reception is limited to adults only"

We put "Adult reception to follow" on our invites & addressed it on our website. Nobody took offense to it at all.

I put "Please join us for an adult reception honoring the new Mr. and Mrs. Maltese at ______." But I'm a rebel like that and wasn't playing around...and not ONE family tried to add on their kids. We also started spreading the word about this time last year that we would not be having kids at the reception

Mine adults only on the response card. The actual invitation just says Reception to follow. On the reception card it says "please join us for an adults only reception following the ceremony blah blah blah"

On an invitation we received recently, at the bottom it stated "Adults Only Reception". I don't see the issue with this.

I know it isn't supposed to be on the invites, but I do have a "response card" that tells people how to RSVP. I am doing the online RSVPs, but I know a lot of people with newborns and I have heard of too many people that think newborns don't count since they don't need a seat. I'm trying to find a happy medium of nice and to the point.

We really aren't a fan of just saying "adult only" or "no kids".

ETA:We keep saying "affair" because they aren't invited to the ceremony either. Everything is in one place and everyone will be at their tables for the ceremony.

We put "please contact us for childcare information, so you can kick back and enjoy this evening event"

might seem a little silly, but it works for our crowd

I really wanted to put it on the invitation too but in the end I followed etiquette and didn't do it. Instead I have it on the website and I also made an FAQ section of the website and put it there too with a link to care.com. I also am going to address the invites to only those who are invited and on my RSVP card it says We have reserved ___ seats in your honor. Since you're doing online RSVPs you could post it on the page where they RSVP. Something along the lines of "while we love your little ones, we want you to enjoy an evening with the adults. If you need assistance finding childcare please visit care.com"

I didn't put anything on the invitation. I kind of skirted etiquette by putting this on the website: "Unfortunately we are unable to accommodate all of our guests' children at the reception. Please contact Lori at XXX-XXX-XXXX if you need assistance finding child care!" You could put something similar on the RSVP page?

I didn't want to put "adult only" anywhere because we are inviting my soon to be nieces and nephews. So I didn't think it was fair to so "no children" because there will be 4. We only had a few problems and they were easily resolved.

I know it doesn't follow etiquette rules but I kinda love Maltese's strategy. I think that people really have a hard time understanding that so the only kids I want at my wedding are the FGs and my nephews. I'll probably end up putting on the website and the invites, but I've been spreading the word since we got engaged, lol.

Just put it on the website because it is inappropriate to put who isn't invited on the invitation.

Just address to whomever is invited... that is what we are doing. Usually whoever's name is on the invitation, THAT is who is invited. If there are guests with small children, than I would suggest you have a seperate response card for them that states : we love children, but have had to limit the seats to minimal.

Only put the adults as the addressees and put Adult Reception to Follow on the invite. If you wanted to go the extra mile, include some babysitters' information in the envelopes to people you know have children.