No longer excited

Courtney, I'm SO sorry. Family drama can indeed take the joy out of a wedding. I know from experience. It will all workout. Just remember your ultimate goal is to marry that one person you wish to spend forever with!! ❤ You'll be in my thoughts.

I think it’s easy to get wrapped up and stressed out with the planning process but don’t lose sight of the fact that this about YOUR marriage and not the wedding

I’m sending you positive vibes. That is really a hard spot to be in. You are so brave. I can be a bit pessimistic and opted for a micro-wedding , partially because I expect some people to be unreliable. Just focus on it being a good day because of the purpose of a wedding! It’s for you and your S/O to celebrate dedicating your lives to one another ❤️

I’m sorry you’re going through this. The external stressors can really take away from your big day. It’s hard right now but you’re right when you say planning should revolve around celebrating you and your FW. I would say take a break from all things wedding for a bit- you deserve it . Things will fall into place.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way...I suggest down sizing and taking a step back to see where you can reboot. If people drop out but still attend it may be easier to use it to make it more intimate and focus more on you and your fiance. Your wedding is about your love story. You get to write the story the way to want to...the power is yours.

I'm so sorry you are going through this! I was fearful of feeling this exact same way, as if nobody actually cared that I'm happy. I didn't invite any blood relatives to my wedding or the reception for this exact reason. I don't want any negativity or dark clouds hanging around me. Plus I haven't talked to them in years. As long as you both are happy that's all that matters because what we always long to happen, almost never happens. The universe works it out for us.

I felt this way to. Pick 1 person who hasn't been like that to you and go dress shopping. It really picked me up emotionally. A note of wine and a night in with your so discussing wedding stuff will help too. Also maybe restructure who you inlove in your wedding so you can cut out the negatives.

Many times when things have gone wrong in my life it’s because God was trying to speak to me about something . You may not be religious and that’s fine - but look around at all the signs and the bigger picture and try to understand on a deepee level what may be happening! It may not be intended to destroy you but maybe to shine light on something else !

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Sorry you are having so many issues. Maybe just plan an elopement with just you and your FW and if you want to celebrate with family later, you can have a BBQ or something. You can still have an amazing wedding and celebrate without any drama! It will also save a bunch of money and aggravation. It should be a wonderful day!!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Family can be soul-sucking when it comes to something as big as wedding planning. It's sometimes really difficult separating what you want from them, from what they do to you. I wanted to elope because of that, and after a few months, my FH said he understood entirely why (still didn't want to, but at least he understood)!

That being said, begin doing something for you. Whether it's wedding related or no. Focus on your mental and physical wellness before trying to tackle anything with them again. And, if at all possible, minimize their involvement/conversations about wedding planning.

I turned my attention to making sure ever detail screamed FH and me - and that was an easy want to drown them out. I could easily go, "sorry, that's not us." It seemed to shut people up faster than, "That's not the direction I want to go in."

I feel you! I had some drama with my family go down a while ago. We decided to just do an intimate wedding and a bigger reception. Then only the most important people, the ones we really want there, will be there. We also decided that for this reason we'll get married on Friday September 13th and have the reception the following day.

UGH! I'm so sorry you are going through this. Your not me, but I would say the heck with everyone else. You and whoever RSVP'd will be there, and you will have an amazing time. That is what matters, you and your FW celebrating together, and enjoying your lives together.

I don't understand all of the circumstances but if bridesmaids dropped off at the last minute like this, unless it was a life altering emergency, there not worth your time anyways. As for your mom, that just sucks. My mom is my best friend and if she did that to me, I'd probably disown her, or at least not talk to her for a very very very long time, because it would just be crazy. Family and friends, if they are true to you, they are there for you, they should respect your wishes and not any of their personal feelings or anything else get in the way of them showing you how much they care for you and want to support you through this amazing step in your life.

I wish you loads of luck, and stay strong! This is your wedding and your marrying the FW of your dreams. Don't let others step on your parade, celebrate your love for one another because at the end of the day they are yours for life, and you are there's. Your love and care for each other is what's important.

Hi Courtney! Drama here too. My FH is the brother of my brother's x-wife. My brother's x-wife and my FH are twins, actually. We started dating and within months, my bro and his wife got divorced. Lots of sour feelings there on both sides. Our wedding is not until October but I heard through the grape vine that my bro is not excited for the wedding as he will now have to see his x-in-laws and all of that family once again. He's nervous about getting the pitty party and questions about how he is doing, and so on. My FH's sister is now dating someone new as well, so he might be there with her if they are still together in 6 months. Ugh, kinda confusing. Anyway, my thoughts are that EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. People will just have to deal, and if personal situations get in the way of such an awesome and fun day, that's just heartbreaking, but it's reality and the party will go on! Have your day and forget the rest! If people really care about you, they will not let you even catch a glimpse of something going on that shouldn't be on that particular day. Well wishes Courtney.

It definitely helps to get some support from you SO as well! Vent to him a little. I've noticed sometimes I get very uninspired and unmotivated to keep going and realize it's because I've bottled it all up inside! Planning a wedding is DIFFICULT. Sometimes you gotta just spill the emotions to someone to help clear your head a little. Hope this helps, best of luck in the rest of your planning! Sending positive vibes.

Hey beautiful!

I would definitely take a step back at this point, maybe a full week with no wedding planning at all, just reset and the come back and look at it with fresh eyes! You're right it should be the happiest day of your your life, so you should do exactly what you want - completely! I don't want you to regret anything. But definitely take a breather for now, you've earned it after a year of planning!

that really sadden my heart to hear how selfish they are. Stay strong if you believe in God pray for them but keep you head up and remember this day belongs you too.

I’m sorry you’re going through this I’m feeling this to a smaller degree, and I’m disappointed in what I thought were close friends and family not coming to the wedding. But we’re all responsible for our own choices, so if people are not willing to prioritize an evening with me for what I hope is a once-in-a-lifetime event, I have to let them make that choice (and in doing so, show me who they are). I’m trying to remember I can’t control the actions of others, I can only control my own reaction. My reaction: I’ll be damned if anyone ruins our day for us.

I’m trying to be understanding of these people as I’ve declined three weddings to two very good friends and one extended family member in my life, and I thought they were for good reasons at the time. But now that I’m going through it, I regret not being able to make it to my close friends’. I think missing one of those damaged our relationship in a way I didn’t realize until very recently, when my announcement to let my friend know we’re engaged was met with, “That's great! BTW we just had our second child, and I know you didn’t even know I was even pregnant with #1 🤷🏼‍♀️“

I don’t want to hold bitterness against those who declined but I think I need to be a realist and know that it will change our relationship going forward. And frankly, that’s life—change and new things and others fading away.

Finally, I’ve instead chosen to focus on those who are making the time and effort to come to the event. So I’ll thank everyone who attended and spend as much time with each of them as possible, and do my best to throw a damn fun party for all of us!

Remember you have others who ARE coming to the wedding and are excited to share the day with you. Maybe show them a little more appreciation in the future. And definitely remember that the day is about you and your fiancée choosing to commit to each other, and the experiences to look forward to and future memories you have to build together.

If it’s that bad, maybe just elope and spend the money on a fabulous destination wedding vacation for just you and your significant other . At some point you just have to realize that you cannot control the happiness of all of those people, and if they are unwilling to think about what will make you happy then ultimately you’ll have to cut it loose and choose another path.

I'm sorry you're so stressed and no longer excited. Like other posters have said, remember what this day is about. This is about you an FW making a huge commitment to one another. THat in itself is special. Focus on each other and your love for each other that day