No longer looking forward to my wedding

I'm so sorry you're having this experience. It's very unfair and these moments should be about you and your FH. I'm having problems of my own, but it's my little sister and how she's been acting even though she's a grown woman of 23.

You should find out why your mom is being incredibly defensive. Does she think she's losing you or that she's not being included enough?

That's messed up. Your going to have to tell ya mom try harder for you. You're looking forward to a good day and they are his family. They deserve the same respect. Ask ya mom to hold her tongue for the benefit of your wedding. Be serious and firm tell her it's absolutely ruining everything.

Your mom is overreacting. However, with regard to the bridal shower - it's totally fine to have one for your side of the family only (depending on who's hosting, assuming your mom?). If his family wants to do one for you, they can host one.

Also, I've never seen moms/MILs at a bachelorette party - not saying you can't do that - but it sounds like it would be much easier to just keep it to girlfriends. Same with the bridal suite - I just had my bridal party and my mom and gma popped in and out to touch up makeup or change eventually, but didn't hang out the whole day with us. MIL got ready on her own and just came down to say hi a little before the ceremony. They don't need to be with you the whole day.

Your mom is being really childish. She really needs to grow up. That being said, moms don't normally attend bachelorette parties so just don't invite her. You can have two showers. One for his family and one for yours. I have known other people who have had multiple showers and it worked out just fine. My mother-in-law didn't get ready with us, but my mom did. I invited my mother-in-law to get ready with us, but she thought the cost of hair and makeup to be done by my stlyist was too much and she wanted her hair professionally done so she went to Walmart and her sister helped her do her makeup. If you want to invite both moms then I would tell your mom she can either be nice or she can get ready by herself. There is no need for her to act like this. At the actual wedding, I would sit her with only people from your family. It is sad that she can't act like an adult and that you have to treat her like a child. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Elope. No stress no drama just you two then hold an engagement party prior or wedding reception after.

It’s really hard to win them all. I have some people in my family with strong opinions about what I should or shouldn’t be doing. Sometimes you just have to say “I’m sorry you’re unhappy, but this is what I want. Please be happy for me.”

Your mom is being rude and disrespectful to you and your fiance’s family. Your wedding is in June. You have time to cancel and elope. Or take back control—hire a coordinator to prevent your family from setting up, have two separate showers, and only keep supporting ladies in your bridal suite (not mom). It is NOT ok for your mom to behave like this and it’s your role to set boundaries.

Ok, and a hug for you! It’s hard but this is the time where often couples need to set boundaries as they form their own union/partnership. See a counselor if you need extra support right now. 🤗

You need to set boundaries with your mom, and NOW.

Sit her down, explain how hurt and upset you were, and also point out that she can't get away from "these people" now - they will be your in-laws, and she has to grow up and learn to deal.

Make it crystal clear that if she doesn't behave, she doesn't get any more information on the wedding, she will get cut out of the planning, and you will protect your fledgling family from her petty comments.

She sounds rather narcissistic, and will likely not respond well to these comments. Stay FIRM.

I'm sorry she's behaving like this.

(My solution to my mother problem was to not put her name on the invites. This so offended her, she hasn't spoken to me since June! ...It's glorious.)