No Maid of Honor?

Aww if no one is jumping out at you as maid of honor you absolutely do not need to have one and try not to feel sad about it. If you decide not to have a maid of honor and someone asks you about it I d just say you love all your friends equally and didn't want to chose between them and then give them a great big mind your beeswax smile . I have a handful of really good quality friends but not a huge quantity of them and my partner has millions of friends from everything he s every done in his life and thats ok we are different people in that way. You can ask if any of your bridesmaids want to do a toast or have a few of them do one together when the best man does his. Sending you a big hug, happy planning

My fiancé has 4 super close friends and I have none. I get it. It can be depressing. I remember years before I met my now husband, I told myself I didn’t want to get married until I had a solid core group of girlfriends so that I could have the bridesmaid experience. I felt like I wasn’t complete if I didn’t have the core girlfriend group. Especially, comparing myself to all these groups from my HS and there dinner/girls night pics on Instagram.


Fast forward to when I met my now husband and then when we decided to get married. I still didn’t have that core group of girlfriends but I had come to terms with the fact that I wasn’t incomplete without this imaginary group of people. I feel totally comfortable and complete with the goods friends that I have (old elementary school friends that know me through and through and we text often, but long distance and never see eachother…. work colleagues, my husbands friends wives). I love them all but they’re not my core group. But like I said I am ok with not having that.


My advice to you would be to try to dig deep as to why this may be upsetting you. And I truly hope you can find peace with it.

My other peice of advice would be to have your FH’s groomsman and best man be seated with the rest of the guests or in the front row so you don’t feel self conscious about your side not having as many people.


One more thing, I didn’t have a maid of honor and fielded a ton of questions from my family “whatttttt you’re not having a maid of honor?!?!?!? Huhhhh how why!!?!!” and it was annoying but after a few days they backed off.

Best of luck!

We marry a spouse that will complete us in many ways. It looks like you will marry a man with many friends who will then also be yours. If you help promote some social events, that will make it all the better and things should work out well for you.

You don't really have to have one. A Maid of Honor is really supposed to help with organizing the bachelorette party, writing down names and gifts for the bride to use for thank you notes during a bridal shower, holding the bouquet for the bride during vows/ring exchange, ect. Basically kind of like a helping hand. But that honestly depends on each group of friends and family and their traditions. This is my 2nd wedding. I have a man of honor, and I'm not having a bachelorette party or a shower. I told him he has to hold my bouquet haha. Honestly I'm going to hand it to one of my female friends if he doesn't want to do that. Weddings have some traditions that are meant to be bent or broken depending on you and what you want.

So I actually am going to have 2 men on my side. The problem is as we've gotten older, and with the pandemic, a lot of my connection with people has been remote. I went to school online, I work from home online, I played xbox online. I play piano at church. Things have barely gotten back to normal since COVID, and some things are permanently changed. My friends that were in my first wedding...my maid of honor I lost contact with, one of them is someone I haven't seen in 2 years, two of them were my cousins and now they have tons of kids and I want them to be able to sit with their family. Only one of them is going to be in my wedding again. One of them is a friend from church, and the other three live out of state and I haven't seen them in person in like 3 or 4 years, but we do talk regularly. Long story short, you're not alone in feeling the effects of growing older and growing apart from people we were once connected to, and the pandemic only made that harder for many people. Don't be stressed. You're there with people that love you. It doesn't even matter if both sides are an even number. Quality friends are better than quantity friends anyway, and some people don't want to choose between them. Heck, the person who is going to be in the wedding for a 2nd time isn't even my maid of honor lol. It doesn't mean I value her any less. I wasn't her maid of honor either and I know it's not because she doesn't value me.

I think it could work just to say that you have two bridesmaids and you did not feel comfortable choosing one over the other.