No makeup bridesmaid?

Depends on the reasons behind not wanting wear makeup. Is it allergies? Sensitivity? Money related for getting it professionally done? Or that she’s just not big on makeup? If it’s money you can always offer to pay or help her apply it herself. If she just doesn’t like makeup you can explain how she may look washed out on camera if she’s the only one with out. Just be kind and ask her. Make it known if it’s important to you for everyone to be uniform.

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I absolutely offered to help pay, so I don’t think that’s it. I tried to ask nicely but received no response, and wedding day is less than two weeks away 😬

I don't wear makeup and I'm going bare faced for the wedding. For me, it's a personal preference! I'd be irked if someone tried to make me wear some. So I think back off and honor this BM's wishes

If it’s a personal preference let her go without makeup.

I mean your other option is to shame or force her to wear makeup. That wouldn’t make one a good friend, right?

Just respect her choice.

View Quoted Comment Yes ! Me too ! I agree with this.

You just have to let this one go. It may not be your style, but it's hers.

If you don’t think your friend is pretty enough to be in your wedding photos without makeup, do her a favor and remove her from the bridal party.

In my opinion I think it should be up to the individual girl. If this person doesn’t usually wear makeup (I’m one of those people) then maybe they would feel like they don’t look like them selves or feel like themselves!

I offered to pay for everyone's hair and makeup, but still let the girls pick if they wanted it professionally done and what style they wanted. All 9 wanted their hair professionally done, and 7 wanted makeup professionally done. Are you paying for it or asking them to do their own?

I really think that its important for the bridal party to feel comfortable and be themselves! Bridesmaids are your closest friends and family not models. So I wouldn't force her. It won't look bad that she doesn't have makeup on. I had 7 bridesmaids and 2 junior bridesmaids, 1 bridesmaid and 1 junior bridesmaid didn't want makeup (sensitive skin issues), the rest had makeup. There was nothing wrong with it.

View Quoted Comment I paid for their jewelry for the day of instead, and I was asking them to pay $30 towards the hair/makeup. But I did tell them that if they needed help I would absolutely pay. I definitely don’t want to “force” anyone, was just looking for advice on how to handle the situation!

View Quoted Comment Never said I was going to force anyone, just looking on how others would handle the situation!

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Jewelry is another prop (like HAMU) for the wedding day so it's hard to ask them to pay if it's a requirement or you want a specific style. I would just gift the $30 to this BM if you want her makeup done.

View Quoted Comment Jewelry was part of their bridesmaid gift, along with me paying thousands of dollars for them to all go to Disneyland (if they wanted... I didn’t force!). The only thing I asked them to pay for was the dress, so I didn’t feel like I was being unreasonable to ask them to pitch in $30 for hair and makeup 😬

Yeah I agree that you should let this one go. It was generous of you to offer to pay for her if that was the problem, but it sounds like she just prefers to not wear it. I don't think it will look weird if she doesn't have makeup when others will!

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Every friend group is different in what is expected. In my opinion, the only requirement for a bridesmaid to pay should be for their dress and getting to the wedding (if they have to fly or drive to the hotel). We had a large wedding party, and it cost us several thousand dollars for rehearsal dinner, proposal gifts, day of gifts, hair and makeup, transportation to and from the venue, breakfast and lunch the day of the wedding, all the dinners at my bachelorette, all the dinners at his bachelor party and the tip for the fishing boat, bach party favors, and everything else. But that is pretty standard for a wedding with bridesmaids and groomsmen. I've been in two weddings and never been asked to contribute towards my HAMU, it was always optional if I wanted to pay.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I totally get that! I have been a part of several of my girls weddings, and was asked to pay for A LOT more than I am asking them to pay, so I thought the understanding was fair, and told them to let me know if it wasn’t. I have always paid for hair and makeup as a bridesmaid and it’s been over $100 multiple times, so I thought $30 was fair, or $0 if they really have financial issues and need help.

"what should I do in this situation? I’m a bit torn!" There is absolutely nothing for you to do. Just continue with your planning and enjoy your time with your friends at your wedding. One person not wearing makeup will have no material affect on your photos.

I wouldn't worry about it. In this situation, I would focus on myself as the bride and worry about how I'm going to look, not my bridesmaids. I too, would be a bit bothered if someone asked me to wear makeup when I don't want to. Or vise versa! If someone DIDN'T want me to wear makeup to their wedding, I'd say "Adios!" and take with that what you will lol. It won't matter in the grand scheme of things