No one cares about your wedding as much as you do!

At my work we have this bowling ball tied to a chain and attach it to your ankle for the day and you have to carry it around all day and sign the ball to celebrate getting married to the "ole ball and chain" (both guys and girls do it and it's just a silly joke we don't actually think it's the ol ball and chain lol).

Our office loves an excuse for a party so we throw baby showers/wedding showers for everyone as long as they want one. A few people recently have just wanted to go to lunch with their branches rather than have us all celebrate. My branch chief already confirmed with me I'm down for an office shower as getting the last girl to agree to do one was a bit of a battle...luckily her then FH asked why she wants to deny her coworkers a break with cupcakes!

I'm the only one in our church office so yeah, unless I do something for myself..haha I imagine that the regular church ladies will do something for me though.

I'm sorry that's disappointing. My work does a pretty good job of acknowledging big events, they threw me a mini bridal brunch

@Monica that's hilarious!!

Aww, I know exactly how that feels. Same thing happened to me. Two weeks later I saw them wheel in this big cake for another women. I mean i dont like parties like that, but still burns to be the only one who no one thought of.

ESPECIALLY with you both working there.

My current job, no. Neither of the bosses or partners wished me (us) congratulations either before leaving or after coming back from the wedding. They did however make comments when my grandfather died three weeks after our wedding, asking if I was on another vacation (eye roll). My prior employers all either did showers or cards/cakes.

NWR-I wanted to plan a small baby shower for an admin of mine who really needs the help. I was pretty much told nope not in company time and I could only have one on the weekend if I invite everyone, because people will get offended. It's a Monday -Friday 8-5 job, needless to say I didn't host s shower.

@ Monica that actually sounds awful lol.

@Richard yup we're "one big family" at my company too!

There is only myself and one other person who wasn't married in my office. She ended up secretly dating one of the people who worked in our building. He switched careers and two years later they got married. We were all invited. Even though, I didn't ask for it, I feel like I am getting more attention than she did and I am talking about it less than she did. Personally, I feel it's because I've been here since I am 19 so I was always looked at, and referred to, as the "the kid". I am a few week shy of turning 34 so I've been here a number of years and to them, it's like their kid is getting married. We don't really do any workplace celebrations because it's a close-knit family type of relationship here so they are all invited .. they can celebrate there!

I'm sorry that you felt left out. My co workers got me gifts and cards. I know that we even threw baby showers at times as well at work, sometimes surprise showers. Most people seemed to really care, others were constantly doing side eyes. Some felt it was unprofessional in a workplace to do this stuff. We.had a few people who worked in our department who married each other, they were the ones who got most of the attention and showers(obviously since we knew both in relationship). I wish the best for you two. Congratulations!

I work in an office full of people and as long as I have been here I have seen tons of parties thrown for people (weddings, showers, retirement, birthday), with that said, I know for a fact that nothing will be done when I get married. I keep my private and work life so separate, even thought they know I am getting married, I expect nothing from my co-workers.

OP that would burn me too & I am sorry your feelings were hurt. Congrat's and tons of well wishes for this weekend though!!!

I was asked to arrange a work bridal shower for a brand new employee. I asked for details and was told "Just do whatever was done for you." Um, that would be nothing.

I put on a nice party nonetheless.

At work they don't. We are all separated by teams. Other teams have never done anything before. I only know 2 girls and 1 guy have gotten married in the 4 years working here, nothing was done. I am honored to say that on my last day working before my wedding MY TEAM and supervisor decorated my area. They also collected money!

Aww that sucks, I would be a little disappointed too! My department had a bridal shower for me and I was surprised because they usually don't even celebrate birthdays. Was your husbands last day yesterday too? If not, they may give something to him before he leaves!

At our job we usually have wedding showers for the ladies that are getting married (not usually for the guys but not sure if that is because they don't want one or people assume they don't want one).

I don't even talk to other real adults in a normal day as I'm in an office by myself and then see college students. But academia tends to be very "leave each other alone." So no one's even said congratulations to me, even though they know. I just don't think it's on their radar. I would have like a congratulations or a card, not a shower or presents though. That's weird in a work environment to me. We certainly don't celebrate birthdays, but we do celebrate when someone leaves for another job or retires (which always seems weird to me, what about when they first start working?). It can be kinda isolating though working in these types of jobs.

No parties in workplace is weird. I am a party planner/wedding planner and also I am an aesthetician. In the spa that I worked for for a long time, we do monthly birthdays. I make a poster board of all the employees celebrating their that month and I'll bring in a cake every month(that I make myself)to celebrate those employees birthdays. Some months were just too impossible to do individual birthdays, like September! I felt it was important to make the employees feel special and wanted so I came up with a plan with the owners to do this monthly and they loved it. They thought it would be fun and a great way to keep our employees, reducing the turnover rate. My mom is a teacher and at their work they are constantly doing showers and birthdays and Kate's all the time. I feel it's important to recognize different things in the workplace to make it feel more like home because you're there more often than you are home. I completely understand professionalism, but I also understand recognition, rewards, and joyous occasions in life. It is important for work family to see this as well.

My job will usually do a shower or a cake for the office. I'm kind of hoping to be ignored, but I'd appreciate some type of recognition.

That does suck - I'm sorry.

The employees on my floor all got together and chipped in for a couple of gifts including a cash gift, cake and we had champagne too in our conference room. My own department gave me a separate cash gift.

It was bittersweet because right before they brought me in the conference room to surprise me I had found out my MOH's mother had just passed away.

I'm sorry, sometimes ppl are jerks -_- But maybe they'll have something for you both when you get back!