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Dedicated November 2020

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Michelle, on March 9, 2019 at 11:16 PM Posted in Planning 0 12
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So this has been a journey for me. I have been dating my FH for 19 years this November and engaged for 4 years. We wanted to get married on our 20th anniversary which will be in November. I feel like I have talked about our wedding so much that no one cares. I found 3 venues to visit and no one wants to go with me, I asked and heard crickets. I have changed my wedding so much from fairytale to realistic budget. At this point I want to keep everything to myself. I know it has been a long time but life has happen. Are parents are sick some dying, we have 3 children and are planning on buying a house. I just feel like I'm so excited the planning time has come but I've been talking about it so long. We are finally planning and he's leaving it to me because he's not a planner and non of the people who are in the wedding seem to care. Advice or support needed.

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Latest activity by Michelle, on March 11, 2019 at 9:03 PM
  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
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    Nobody will be as excited about your wedding as you! And it’s also 100% up to you and your FH to plan.
    Im sorry you feel like nobody cares though, I hope everything gets better!
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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    Thank you! You are absolutely right.
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  • Samantha
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    Samantha ·
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    Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure people care! I sometimes feel I talk about our wedding too much with friends too because not all of them say things when I talk wedding stuff. I've just come to accept it and I still talk about I but don't expect everyone to be as excited as I am. Its my wedding not theirs. I also went venue touring on my own and found ours and then FH came and toured and was able to ask all of his questions. My days off are different than everyone else's so no one could go with me, but it was fine. I hope things get better for you!
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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    I was thinking about going on my own. My FH told me to make a decision and then he would go. I feel so sad and guilty because his dad is in ICU and sick. I have been waiting 19 years for this moment and should be happy/ am happy we made it this long together. He is my rock and support and I want to support him and not bother him with this. I appreciate your feed back, going at it alone isn't so bad. You have to work around life's obstacles.
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  • Formerbride
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    Formerbride ·
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    There is a bright side to doing things alone. You won't have conflicting opinions or people telling you not to do something.
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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    That's true! I went shopping with my friend a few months ago and she talked me out of some really cute shoes. I went back to buy them and they were gone.
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  • Samantha
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    Samantha ·
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    Oh, you poor thing! Praying that things get better and work out for you! Yeah, I would at least book some tours, then decide on which ones you like and then schedule a date for the two of you to go together. It worked out really well for us doing it that way, then he saw why I loved the venue we chose so much and was totally on board.
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    Michelle ·
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    Thank you! I think I will do that.
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  • Soon2BSmith
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    People probably won't get excited until you have some things in concrete. Please you own venue. Once that is set, then people probably know that its really happening and get excited.

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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    You're right! And why do I need other people, I'm excited.
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  • MrsD
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    I did most our planning with just my fiance. My mom has been involved a little, but that's it. I would just focus on planning with your fiance!

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    Michelle ·
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    I think I'm going to do that. His dad is in the ICU so we are putting things on hold for a while to focus on family.
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