No one has time for a bachelorette party......

View Quoted Comment A joint party would mean another taturm fest from the best man! So at this point I'm done. I shouldn't have to plan everything. I find it ridiculous that my bridal party doesn't care enough. I wish I would have stood my ground and not have a bridal party.

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I can hear your frustration, Cynthia. Like I said, you shouldn't have to do all the planning yourself, but you might have to. If the best man likes to throw tantrums then he doesn't have to come. His choice. My FH and I have always said that we throw the invite out there and those who show do, and those who don't, don't. And we promise (and keep our word) not to be upset by those who don't. If you really want one, then plan it. You deserve to have what you envision as your wedding experience.

This might be risky, but maybe a week night?? I assume there will probably be some beverages and such, so maybe do like a Thursday night and maybe some attendees can take Friday off work? If it were me, I would totally be okay with this.

View Quoted Comment No one will watch my 3 kids on a weeknight

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Hey ladies! There are so many decisions to be made with weddings, right?! I keep reading things like "no big deal" and "feelings won't be hurt" but truly feelings do get a little dented. We have to be careful with ourselves and voice what we want with all this good stuff because nobody can make us feel as bad as ourselves. Case in point and a little off note here: I booked my first dress shopping appointment and told my 3 sisters and mom. I made it sound like it wasn't that big of a deal if they couldn't make it, and I really felt that way at the time. The day of shopping comes up and two sisters did not show up, one let me know she was sick and tired from being up coughing all night with a cold, and I had to call to remind my own mother literally 10 minutes before the appointment. My mother is the only one that went with. I wanted to cry because this isn't a joke. It's for real and I'm really getting married. Anyway...if you have a tiny feeling that you want something to work out for your wedding events, push it! Voice yourself girls!

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Oh, good point. Argh! Doesn't this just make you wanna throw your hands up and forget it?! Then in that case...I say plan a weekend, let everybody know with ample time so they can rearrange their schedules and just do it!

I would go out with whoever can make it, one of my favorite weekends ever was my bach party, don't miss out because everyone can't make it!

I just found out when my favorite live band was playing at my favorite restaurant and asked my MOH to invite everyone. Those that could come will and those that can't will not. I will be excited to spend time with those that can make it. I don't know if this helps but I hope it does.

View Quoted Comment I just did this morning.. they are stressing me out at this point. And I said I was done talking about for the rest of the week. My FH said that we can just tell everyone where to be and what day and who ever comes can celebrate. He said he doesn't want me feeling left out so he is making it a joint party now. So we all go out together.

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Great plan! My FH and I are also doing a group thing for our party. Good luck to you and I know everything will be awesome! You only get one shot at doing this, don't let anyone ruin it! If your people can't make one evening work for you and your event one time in your life, that's on them!

Maybe it’s a surprise. They don’t want to say anything around you to give it away.

View Quoted Comment I understand that. I was just getting sick of how they were talking to me.. alot of yelling and talking over everyone. Just too overwhelming!

Our BP is our kids since we are in our mid 40s..but my sorority sisters threw me a shower and we had the best time. I would say get together with a group of your best girlfriends and hang out. WE sat around and ate/drank and laughed. Some of us havent seen each other in 20years and some wont see each other in 25 at my wedding. We always keep in touch via FB,email,chats but getting together in person is always hard. WE cant wait. I am going to try to spend time with other guests but my heart will really be with them.

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He couldn't be more wrong!!

I'm sure you've seen enough on WW now to know that lots of brides/grooms choose not to have a bridal party. It's actually more common that I expected. But it's what some couples want and it works for them.

But since you do have one, hopefully they won't cause you too much drama.

View Quoted Comment Definitely not. They admitted to forgetting about it.. nothing is planned at all. So I wont be bringing it up. I have enough going on.

I'm pretty sure your MOH is supposed to plan it, not you. If she or he is not planning it, just pick a date yourself and stick with it.

View Quoted Comment Right and she is not..

View Quoted Comment I don't mean any offence, but I feel like that's odd. My sister planned both a destination bachelorette and a local bachelorette. That's two parties. She did it while working full time with a toddler and pregnant. I'm in serious awe of her! She just gave birth last week!

Of course, everyone has their reasons, but did she say she doesn't want to plan one?

View Quoted Comment She never really said anything. When I made this post was the first time it was ever talked about. Ever! She doesn't have any kids and she only works part time. So I don't completely understand what is going on. I have told her " hey, if something is going on and you need someone to talk to. I am always here for you". But she said that everything is just fine. I know she's applying for other jobs. So I'm not sure.. I don't want to push anything to much. But at that same time I'm worried about her and kind of confused.

View Quoted Comment Watch them get them get married and want you to be a part of everything. I'm sorry sometimes good friends are hard to find. Are you still friends with them?