I've been reading these forums since I got engaged and this is the first time I'm posting something. I've been refraining from posting this but I can't help but feeling depressed about this. My wedding is in two months and no one is planning my bachelorette party... I have a smaller bridal party that consists of one MOH, two bridesmaids, and a junior bridesmaid. My MOH has been my best friend for 15+ years and the other bridesmaids are my sister who I'm not particularly close to and another friend who lives about 1000 miles away. I would never expect the Junior BM to plan anything since she's currently 10 years old.
My MOH asked about a year ago what I would be interested in for my bachelorette party and I said something low key like dinner and a paint night. I want the junior bridesmaid to be able to attend and I've never been a wild/crazy person nor do I want my girls spending a fortune on me since they're already paying for their part in my wedding. This was not the only time I've mentioned what I would like for my party, I've probably dropped at least three or four hints now. My MOH is also getting married and I'm her MOH. Her wedding is at the end of October and last weekend was her bachelorette party. While at lunches during her bachelorette, several of her friends that I hadn't previously met asked where and when mine was and I felt really uncomfortable and responded with "I'm not sure, I haven't heard anything about it from MOH yet". I put a lot of time and money into her destination bachelorette and she was only involved in the planning on certain things (determining date, guest list, must do activities). I know a bridal party is only required to show up on the big day but I can't help but feel incredibly hurt about this. The hardest part about planning my event is figuring out a date that works best for the roughly eight to ten girls that will be in attendance. As my wedding nears, I know it will be borderline impossible for two of my closest friends since they live out of state and will be traveling for the wedding.
I'm very hurt that I went above and beyond to make sure she got what she wanted (both for her shower and bachelorette) and she isn't willing to do the same for me, she can't even set a date for mine. I can't help but to feel as if I won't be having one and that upsets me because I want to spend an afternoon/evening with all of my closest friends before I get married. I've read plenty of forums about how the bride should never plan her own party with the exception of the wedding and I wouldn't feel comfortable planning my own. What else should I do to try to get my MOH to plan something for me?
