No registry just honeymoon fund

I did a wishing well! I sent a poem with my invitations. Look up wishing well poems

Honeyfund! So far so good for money gifts :-)

Oh just don’t register. People aren’t stupid they’ll give you money. A honeymoon fund will make you look like you are expecting gifts and that does not bode well for you.

Don"t use a cheesy poem. It doesn't make something impolite (asking for cash) polite.

Do a search for honeyfunds in old threads and you will be overloaded with information.

TLDR- don't register or have only a small registry for those who prefer to give physical gifts, and the rest of your guests will give cash.

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People gift cash if you don't register.

Thank you very much everyone very helpful.

Poems make me cringe. Suuuuuuuper tacky. If you don’t want physical gifts, just don’t register. People will get it and give you cash. We didn’t register and while we did get a few boxed gifts from older and very traditional family members, the majority gave us cash.

This makes me cringe so hard. This is like that girlfriend who says they don't want anything for their birthday but then gets super upset when they don't get anything.

My FH sister added a poem in their invites. We plan on just not registering anywhere. Honestly it's up to you.

Wow! This brides and grooms, is why you get so many RSVP declines and empty cards at your wedding.

You quite literally make a guest feel like their only worth is their pocketbook, in a poem, on a foil stamped card.

View Quoted Comment Terrible suggestion.

Just don't register and you'll get mostly financial gifts at the wedding. No one needs to be told that money makes a good gift. The bonuses of going this way are that you'll get the gifts immediately rather than waiting weeks or longer for the fund to send your check and you get the full gift. Honeyfunds take a cut of the money. Why would you pay a middle man to collect money?

Echoing so many pps in that poems make me gag.

I was told that honeymoon funds are a huge no no.... it looks like all you want is money or a gift.... an easy solution is to make a super small registry or no registry at all your guests will be smart enough to get the hint to just gift you cash in a card instead. Don't add any cute poems or honestly anything in the invites it's tacky and rude to your guests.

Yuck. Just don't register.

There's no need to register for money.

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Cringeworthy times ten. All this plus leave your kids at home - in case you did not get that hint from the invite and off our wedding website.

A honeymoon is an extra. You are not entitled to one. Do not force others to pay for your luxuries.

I can't unsee that poem!!!

I know most people on this site are against honeyfunds. But I just wanted to reinforce that by saying that my day of coordinator asked if we were doing one and when we said no, her response was “ok good! That is generally considered poor etiquette.” So it’s not just this site. We aren’t registering, most people will gift cash.

Hi Jessica -

I am not sure what part of the country you are from, but here in the New Jersey if you do not register most people will give you cash. While I would not feel offended over a honey fund (I am not easily offended at all), popular opinion on this forum is that they are gift graby. I think your guests will know if you do not register that cash would be best.

As far as the poems - eh I don't have a feeling about them at all, I would leave it out though.

Honeyfund is one of the better known financial registries. I believe there may be others, including one that can be set up through your wedding wire website. They all work more or less in the same manner. Much like setting up a PayPal account, you are asked to verify your banking information so direct deposit can be made. Happy planning!