No registry just honeymoon fund

Because it’s never polite to ask for money?

I’m not overly against them, however what I dislike is when I don’t get all of the money. These honeymoon fund sites all take a little off the top, and so when someone gives 100 dollars you only end up with 98 of that- so why make your guests do that? Or instead of 100- they are adding 2 dollars to make sure you get your full 100, when they could have just put that 100 dollars in a card.
My suggestion would be to just not register. And when people ask you what you want (and they will) just tell them you want cash. That way you aren’t paying a middle man to do what people have done for years.

View Quoted Comment Sammmmmeee I got an invite once which I’m pretty sure was a B list invite and it came with a similar poem and I just rolled my eyes so hard. Like you want money so bad that you’re B listing AND sending a poem telling me if I come, I have to give you money? No waayyyy. “Regretfully declines” only without the regretfully part 😂

My personal take with a little historical context is...we asked for gifts at weddings when we were moving from parents home to our own home. That is no longer the norm and most of us have all the stuff we want for our homes by the time we get married.

If a gift registry is NOT telling people you just want them for their presents I don't understand how the leap can be made that a honeyfund is telling people you just want their money.

Do what works for you.

Wedding wire is fairly against honeymoon registries. This thread will probably go on like this for a bit.

There are some who won't like that you registered for honeymoon gifts and poem won't make them any more amenable to the idea. If it makes you happy, go for it. Just know that it won't change that you're asking for cash gifts and some people will be offended. I honestly don't mind. I always give cash at weddings anyway and I have given to a wishing well at a shower before. It made no difference to me.

I agree that if you have no gift registry, then most people will give you cash but not everyone will comply. You will probably have family members who will want to get you traditional gifts. Either way, research around for a honeymoon registry with low fees and see if you can absorb the fees yourself. I feel like it's annoying for a guest to say, okay, I'd like to give $100 and then they get to the checkout page and it's $106 since there's a 6% fee added. You could also take photos on your honeymoon showing whatever the gift was for (e.g. a pic in front of the Eiffel tower if you were gifted a tour in Paris) holding a sign that says "thank you". to send to your guests who contributed. I had friend do that and I thought it was cute.

Im just not doing a registry usually ppl give money if there is no registry. My cousin did the same thing and got all cards with money in them so I personally wouldnt tell ppl u want money juat dont register

If you simply don't register, there's a 99% chance people will gift you enough spending money for your honeymoon, and probably more. You may get a few un-wanted gifts as well but there's always that risk no matter what you do. Honey funds online usually take a cut so don't do that...and asking for money isn't good any way you do it, so just gently hint at it by not registering. If people ask what to get you since you didn't register, just say you don't need anything and they'll get it.