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Sara
Expert June 2019

No registry, small apartment, why have a bridal shower?

Sara, on March 20, 2019 at 5:44 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 7
Hi all!
We don't have a registry. FH and I have been together 8 years, lived together for about 4, and we rent a 4 bedroom Brooklyn apartment with 3 other roommates. There is literally no where to put anything from a registry, even if we wanted it. I would have loved to time things so that we were getting a new apartment at the same time as the wedding, and use the registry to fill our new apartment with things we really would need, but it just didn't work out that way. Maybe we can swing a new apartment in another year.

My mom and FMIL asked about a bridal shower... But I said I didn't want one because I didn't see the point, since we don't have a registry and don't need a separate party expense (for ourselves or my mom/ FMIL). We did have an engagement party. I suppose that anyone who gives a wedding gift would probably make it a card & cash.

Is there any reason to have a bridal shower? Could we have something like a "housewarming registry" later? Maybe we'll just put furniture on a baby registry? It all sounds a little bizarre and possibly tacky to me, but I thought I'd put the question out there! Thanks!

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Latest activity by Jeanelle, on March 22, 2019 at 12:56 AM
  • Mandy
    VIP May 2019
    Mandy ·
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    If you don't have immediate needs/wants then just don't do a registry. People will know you'd rather have cash/check/gift cards instead and will bring those to the wedding. I have friends who have had housewarming parties with registries so that would be an option. It's typically smaller items, but could still be a fun party.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You could ask them to host an alternative like a recipe shower or a stock the bar party. People also register for housewarming parties when they buy a home. You don’t typically register for super expensive items like furniture for any kind of party. As a guest I would find it tacky to see a couple register for such a major item. Smaller furniture items like a crib would be appropriate for a baby shower, but that’s not something I would even consider when deciding whether or not you want to have a bridal shower.
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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
    Summerbride77 ·
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    Agree with this! There's alternatives to a traditional Bridal Shower. You can even make is a gift free event like a Bridal Luncheon.

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  • KiwiDerbyBride
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    KiwiDerbyBride ·
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    If you don’t need anything for your home, I always love the idea of a recipe shower. The host sends out blank cards with the invitations, and guests write their favourite recipe on the card - you then have an instant stash of tried and true recipes.
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  • Justine
    Super July 2019
    Justine ·
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    Your shower could be a recipe shower, or like Summerbride77 said above, have a bridal luncheon!

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  • Kora
    Expert September 2021
    Kora ·
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    Yes! I love the recipe idea but not just the recipe on a card but they actually make the item and bring it with the card and you can always have a house warming party when you move and I wouldn’t be putting home items on a baby registry but hey, you never know! Someone might buy it for you! haha Have fun! Good luck Smiley smile
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  • Jeanelle
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    Jeanelle ·
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    We also live in Brooklyn and refused a bridal shower. We literally had like 4 things on our Zola registry including a honeymoon fund. For me I always thought of bridal showers as another thing to plan and more work rounding everybody up, even if somebody's throwing it for you. However if you want just have a nice brunch and get together with the generations especially if they're close by. Doesn't need to include gifts. Or it could be a pot luck. Tons of alternatives, make it yours!
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