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No registry?

LCH, on May 27, 2024 at 2:59 PM Posted in Registry 0 7

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My fiance and I do not want a registry however a few friends of mine have expressed that will confuse people and they will still get us something instead. We are a little older (this is my second marriage, his first), own a home, and truly do not want or expect anything from our guests. We are not having a shower or any other sort of celebration ahead of time, our ceremony and reception will also be quite small, likely no more than 40 people. I was planning to just leave any registry or gift information off of our wedding website and details card but that is where my friends said people would get confused. Has anyone else not had a registry or attended a wedding where there wasn't one? I see where guests might still get us something but I do not want anyone to feel as though they have to give us a gift.

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Latest activity by Michelle, on May 30, 2024 at 12:26 PM

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Veronica · on May 28, 2024 at 12:05 PM
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I've never attended a wedding where there wasn't a registry, but every wedding I've attended they have also had a bridal shower. For the bridal shower, we would buy something off the registry and for wedding we always gave a card with cash. I think it's totally fine not to have a registry since you aren't have a shower. I think guests will likely just give you money.
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Cece · on May 28, 2024 at 1:02 PM
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We did this as well! We did not expect or want any gifts from our guests. So on the “registry” tab of our wedding website, we simply wrote: The couple requests your presence be your present
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Pat · on May 28, 2024 at 5:00 PM
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We didn't have a registry, either. Our wedding was 45 guests, and 3rd time around 😉 If anyone asked, we basically said the same thing that Cece posted. We did get gifts, but so many were super thoughtful and perfect for us.
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CM · on May 28, 2024 at 5:58 PM
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Plenty of people don’t register. There’s nothing confusing about it. All it means is you’re not thinking about gifts. Actually, no mention of gifts is considered etiquette appropriate, even “no gifts.” If anyone asks you directly then you can say there’s nothing you need. At that point it’s still their prerogative.

In some circles money is a common wedding gift and registries are mostly for shower gifts. Or they can gift the old fashioned way, by shopping for something they think you might like or find meaningful.
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Andrea · on May 28, 2024 at 11:13 PM
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We were in the same situation as you — two full households combined into one, nothing we needed! In our wedding website under Registry Info, we put that we didn’t have a registry but if anyone wanted to share the love, here was a list of our favorite charities to donate to. We got some donation notifications, a few personal gifts, and most did nothing exactly as requested!
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Azra · on May 29, 2024 at 6:35 AM
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On your wedding website and in your invitations, include a polite note explaining your decision. Something like:
"Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift we could ask for. We have everything we need for our home and kindly request no gifts. If you feel inclined, a donation to [favorite charity] would be greatly appreciated."
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Michelle · on May 30, 2024 at 12:26 PM
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This depends on what your social circle finds customary and acceptable. Some social circles gift cash only and others don’t gift cash for any reason and expect you to register for physical items and when you don’t, you will get gifts you don’t want and can’t return.

Also registry information is given by word of mouth.Many couples and families don’t do wedding websites so the information posted there will not be read, and may be seen as rude in that social circle by being made public outside of invites for a physical shower.
Our families and social circles would be confused by no registry of any kind.
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