No ring but engaged

View Quoted Comment Right they didnt freak out that I had a whole human baby but god forbid it's a sin to not have a ring lol

View Quoted Comment They can be lol they had nothing negative to say when I got pregnant and loved me the whole 9 months and all but this is what they freak out about like a ring is something you can take off and lose it's not that big of a deal to freak out over bringing a living breathing baby into the world is but they didnt blink a eye at that

View Quoted Comment Go to a used book store and buy a book on wedding etiquette, or a regular ettiquette book, with a couple of chapters on weddings. Someone her generation likely respects, like Miss Manners, or Emily Post, not a tv or website person ( not Martha Stewart, or similar who go over the top on everything.) They clearly say, no ring is necessary. You are engaged when you agree to marry each other, and decide to have a wedding in the reasonably near future , not that vague someday. Meanwhile, then you will have a traditional guide for yourself. And future disputes, if they give you a hard time. An etiquette book is actually few rules. But each applies to many situations, How far do no need to go to lease guests? What are timelines to get things done if you plan. Not the ones from websites, which include lots of things you never need to do, and have you buying BM gowns so many months too early that you may get in fights with BM, but real common sense guidelines. ...
Etiquette books are simply a guideline of what most people consider polite behavior in a given situation. What other people likely expect. Knowing that, you do not need to follow every rule. But the spirit of the rules, is minimizing conflict and friction between people by having some common expectation. Good E books are like cookbooks. They lay out an activity, or event, tell you what to be prepared for. So you pick it up to read a few pages at once. Then decide what you will or won't do, prepared with knowing how most people will react. It sounds like you may have these arguments in the future. I think Dear Abby still has a $10 booklet you can send for.

I am having the same issue. My fiancé proposed to me without a ring but we were so in love with each other and now its a flip flop situation. At first I was scared to tell anyone that I was engaged due to not having a ring the traditional way, but I told my mother and then she didn't announce him as my fiancé to the rest of my family either. Now she does. My fiancé had 2 rings ordered, we recently found out that the more expensive ring had gotten stolen while being delivered by mail. Now my father and mother are not in agreement of us getting married now and I believe its because they cannot afford to pay for it themselves. There's much more that I can go on about, but for now its a very tough situation.