No ring, no bring

If they aren't in a relationship i'm sure you could skip the plus one. I would definitely invite someone in a serious relationship AND their s/o.

i'm sure some of the single people will be upset they can't bring a date but if they aren't happy and decide not to show, the ones that do get the extra stuff.

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We were engaged three weeks after we met and married in six months. I don't think time is a reliable way to judge other people's relationships. In fact, the only way to know if two people consider themselves a couple (a social unit, invited together) is to ask them.

I personally wouldn't attend a wedding if my husband (even when he was my boyfriend or fiance) wasn't invited, even if I was a bridesmaid. But I think not giving plus ones to single people is fine!

Ok, so we are giving all adults the option to bring a SO. For example, my aunt is a widower, and has had a long term big that will be invited with her (addressing the envelope ms. and mr.). The 3 groomsman are all relatives so they will certainly not be lonely!

I think that's fine

Your bridal party always deserves a guest. They are the closest people to you in your life. Why wouldn’t you want them to have that option?

View Quoted Comment I agree that they are important people, and that’s why I don’t want their attention to be focused on a random date. We will be so busy, and they will have family and friends at the reception. The fiancé’s brother likes to bring a girl that uses him and the family. We are trying to avoid that even being an option. He also doesn’t date.

You dont' have to give plus ones to any single guests. If a guest is in a relationship (for any length of time or seriousness) they need to be invited together by name - so this would not be a "plus one".

If they are single, not allowing a plus 1 would be fine but in a relationship, married or not, they should be given a plus 1. I would not attend a wedding if my significant other could not come with me. You don't have to make room for the plus 1's in your festivities (party bus) but some may opt out of them to be with their dates.

As someone who dated my FH for 8 years before he gave me a ring, I'd say give a plus one to anyone in a committed relationship (1 yr+). Otherwise, nope! Especially if that person would be a stranger or someone you weren't planning on inviting anyway.

View Quoted Comment Thanks, Sierra! That’s what we are leaning towards. I remember not having a plus one for my cousin’s wedding, and I was a little offended because my younger brother got a date. The difference was that my brother’s gf spent time with my cousin and her husband, and my boyfriend had never met the couple. In the end, I had a great time at the family wedding, and I didn’t have to stress about introducing a boyfriend to everyone. We want to know who is at our wedding, and letting 3 groomsman (who are related to the groom) invite dates (they are all single atm so it would be less than 8 mo together) seems unnecessary!

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So you wouldn't have invited my significant other when we'd been engaged for four months but only known each other for five? Relationships can't be judged by time any more than by engagement rings. If you want to know if two people consider themselves a couple, ask one of them.

We are going by the rule that we have to have met the significant other, and those that are single won't be getting a plus one. We are having a smaller wedding so we are trying to make sure that everyone that attends has a connection to us. Hope that helps!

I agree with you because of cost.

View Quoted Comment I have male cousins that change girlfriends every few months,obviously if some one was engaged I’d invite their partner. My wedding was a small intimate wedding and guest list was limited so if a single person wasn’t with the person for a while and never met my family prior then they didn’t get a plus one.

Given that we now live in a more modern era where living with a partner outside of marriage is the norm, I think the "no ring- no bring" rule is more commonly expanded to include those that have a significant other. For our wedding, we are including partners that have been together for at least one year, and definitely, if they are living together. However, anyone that is single or not in a serious relationship does not get a plus one (including those in the wedding party).

Not giving plus ones to anyone that is single is fine. Regardless of what their role is in the wedding (BP or guests) as it is their choice to join you on any wedding festivities aka party bus. If they are in a relationship of any kind or obviously married, they should get a plus one.