No Sex Before Marriage?

I don't think so. It's a super intimate experience and I believe you need to connect emotionally and physically. That's just me.

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No I couldn't. Sex isn't everything in a marriage, but it plays a huge role. If we aren't compatible sexually, it would end up leading to frustration, resentment, and indifference.

Nope. I haven't been a virgin for over a decade and frankly am glad. Sexual compatibility and libidos with your spouse is important and not something I'd compromise on. Teaching and learning can only go so far if you're both on different pages.

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I understand your perspective.

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If when you met your spouse he wanted to be celibate until marriage you don't think your relationship could work?

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I completely understand.

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I am mixed on this topic. On one hand, I think sexual compatibility is important because sex is such a big component of a marriage. On the other hand, not having sex with someone could give you the opportunity to get to know someone on a deeper level. Sometimes people stay in bad relationships because of good sex.

View Quoted Comment I think knowing someone on a deeper level takes time and commitment. Which if you want to get married you should have done or been doing regardless of sex or not.
I had a family friend who was very religious and believed in waiting, rushed into a marriage to have sex faster, and ended up in a divorce because they didn't take the time to get to know the woman deeply beforehand. He's been very outspoken that sex can make you do crazy things from too much or too little! I think it's a good reminder to have deep conversation before choosing to get married.

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Sometimes sex can be a distraction and add complications to a relationship. Of course, you should get to know your partner before marriage however many people associate sex with emotion. That is why I stated that many people stay in bad relationships for good sex. If you rush to get married to have sex then your not really getting married for the right reason so I don't think that example is valid in this situation.

View Quoted Comment I politely disagree. Sex is a part of a relationship, having it or not. It's not a distraction, it's human nature.

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I disagree with you as well. Sex is human nature but it can distract you from what's important and can blind you to the reality of things. Once again, people stay in bad relationships for good sex. Even still, I don't have a yes or no answer to the discussion question, as I mentioned, I'm mixed on the topic.

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No. Because there would be no chance of marriage. I wouldn't even consider it without knowing we're sexually compatible.

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I respect your stance on this.

View Quoted Comment No, I don’t think so. I was technically raised to wait until marriage, so that thought never entered my head. However, I am not UNhappy that my fiancé and I have already had sex lol

I think compatibility is important in a relationship. I could go both ways. I have two friends who are virgins (one I know 100% is a virgin, the other I'm skeptical) that are marrying guys who are not virgins. I am interest to see how both marriages play out - not that I'm betting either of them to end or anything.

To the friend I say I'm skeptical of her virgin status - her and her FH live together already, do you think it's possible to live with your boyfriend/fiance and not have sex? Just curious what you think!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for clarifying.

View Quoted Comment I literally giggled when you said you were skeptical about one 😂
I think it's possible to live together without having sex but it's very difficult due to the daily temptation. Maybe they have not had sexual intercourse but have oral sex or pleasure one another in some other way. 🤷
If your friend and her fiance are strong in their faith it's easier to not have sex, I know from experience. 🙃

No, but FH and I both agree that sex is a HUGE part of our relationship. We both value intimacy on the same level and sex is a big deal to us.