Hi ladies....
usually I would never do this but I feel I have nobody to talk to, I’m too embarrassed and ashamed really to talk to my personal circle....
This is a little long but I really need unbiased opinions....
Background: we’re best friends. We do everything together and make fun out of any situation. We’ve been through so much and have had high ups and low downs, always coming back stronger. I’d say our relationship is 9/10 because it’ll never be perfect but close to is fine! We never bicker or fight or argue. Since we met we’ve fought 3x, that’s it. One thing I love is we’re so harmonious. It’s peaceful and happy!
So fast forward.....
my husband (of 6 days) won’t have sex with me or kiss me! We have been so excited for this and got married on Valentine’s Day then planned a big trip with the family. It was a very long but fun drive, we had an absolute blast! (We went to Mall of America)
We had our own King Suite. It was great! So I get Thursday night didn’t happen, we were both up together til 5am to get up for that big trip at 630am.....Friday night we get there and do some different activities then he’s tired, totally okay. Come Saturday we get back to the hotel and....nothing! I tried to kiss him and get him going and he just didn’t want to, okay he is tired. Come Sunday I tried first thing in the am, because he wouldn’t be too tired then right!? And nothing....I go all day feeling hurt and confused and so rejected. Then I’m like you know what, it’s our last night, let’s make the most of it! So that night we’re finally getting somewhere (just kissing) and then he gets up and walks away....literally! Never even got to make out. I was so upset I’m like whatever I’m going to sleep...HEAD TO TOE! Then I got up in the middle of the night, put some sexy lingerie on, got back into bed and woke him up, nothing. Then a couple hours again....nothing! He’d kiss me for a second then turn over.
Come the morning, I was a mess. I couldn’t stop crying because I was so extremely hurt and embarrassed. I tried so hard to get rejected....the fact he’d just get up and walk away? It hurts. When he comes back, um no, moments passed. So we had a big deal about it, ruined the last day because I just couldn’t get out of my emotions of feeling disgusting, unwanted and ugly. So it was a loooong drive home and we went over it several times and he apologized and asked to start over. I’m crushed because we’ll never get those special days back...we’ll never have a honeymoon again. (The first one anyways) I would totally understand if we were both just too tired, but that wasn’t the case. He rejected me 4x!!! From Thursday to Monday, we didn’t even sleep together! Or touch or cuddle....NOTHING!!
So we get home Tuesday am at 5, to be up for work and school at 7....we didn’t even sleep or touch or cuddle together......then comes last night......
kids are in bed and I took a shower and made sure to get an extra close shave and put on sexy, lace lingerie under my robe.(he had no idea) Then after watching some tv, I’m like let’s try again.....he starts kissing me and it feels so forced and like an obligation! (At least he was “excited”) No fun, no passion, nothing. So he opens my robe and was so surprised and had me get up and spin around, he said he loved it and started kissing me while standing up, still not good....get on the bed and he tried to kiss me again and then just was so weird and awkward and then he went soft. I’m laying here so humiliated because not only have I tried so many times, to get rejected, I feel humiliated and extremely hurt that after seeing me in lingerie he goes soft. Am I that much of a turn off? What is going on!? I have body image issues so for me to put that on took everything I had! For nothing but to be rejected again. Then he goes and sleeps in another room while I cried myself to sleep.
I don’t know what to do!! Before we got married we’d make out or yada yada and never an issue for anything...now that we’re married.....???
I am so hurt and crushed and feel so rejected and ugly and worthless.....I don’t know what to think, I’m sooo confused on what’s happening right now....
I’m heartbroken....
(I feel I should clarify it’s not the lack of actual sex that is making me feel this way, it’s the rejection, the being unwanted, then hurt, the point)
can I please get some honest thoughts??
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