No show guests really hurt my feelings

I understand. I just know from previous experience that the people in my family are so flakey its not even funny. No call no show for my kids high school graduations when I only had so many tickets. No shows to baby showers, kids birthdays, you name it. LOL. Unfortunately this is what I have come to expect. Your people seem way more reliable.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I also got married this past weekend (May 17th). I had some no shows too....not sure how many but I did see some empty seats. One I did notice was a friend of mine since I was 15. He was like a brother to me in my teen years (even though I had a crush on him), went to his first wedding, he got divorced and then had an interest in me. We never got together....and I'm glad we didn't. It was one of those friendship only relationship. Well he was a big support for me during the planning process. We would talk 1 -2 times a week (he is now married for the 2nd time, never met his wife but was looking forward to meeting) Well about a month and a half before the wedding he went dark. I would call him and text him with no response. He did not send back the RSVP but promised me he was coming. I was counting on him to make my mother and brothers feel comfortable. My mother loves him and always wanted me to marry him. My mother and I had some very rough moments leading up to the wedding. It was very tense and awkward. I seated him with them to be the life of the table (they were also the smallest table) He promised me he would make mom feel at ease and happy.

Well I'm walking down the aisle and while being very nervous and scanning the audience I do not see him. Cocktail hour I specifically walk around to greet people and was looking for him ( I barely ate at cocktail hour bc of walking around) Asked mutual friends if they heard from him. I kept getting different stories from ...talked to him this week and he said he would be there to he got the days mixed up and thought it was on Sunday. I was hoping he would still show up but the reception started and my family was all alone at the table and looked very uncomfortable (not all my family gets along). So the only time I used my phone was to text him and ask him "WHERE ARE YOU?". He responded relatively quickly stating that he mixed up the days and that he was sorry. He also said he knew no amount "I'm sorrys would make up for it and I know you cant forgive me and rightfully so. I could try to make excuses but I'm just as a##$%^&." I was very hurt and upset that he didn't show up. I know a big part of the reason he didn't come was bc he couldn't watch me get married to someone else (HE IS MARRIED FOR 2nd TIME) I understand that to an extent, but you suck it up and you be there for your friend who is practically family you have know most of her life. I don't think he mixed up the days. I really think he couldn't handle it and was a little bit selfish especially since I really leaned on him for support and advise. I made the decision at that moment to not really count him as a friend. I unfriended him on FB and I don't know if I would respond to him if he called or texted. But weddings really do bring out the best and worst in people. Really got to know who your true friends and family are.

Again sorry this happened to you and I wish you best in your married life with your husband. You are each others best friend.

What I have learned throughout this entire process is that people are selfish. It's hard for people to do anything that they don't want to do. A lot of people somehow make weddings more about them and how it will affect them. I am having an even smaller wedding and am experiencing this from my closest family and friends. I'm sorry this happened to you!

I am sorry that happened to you. I can only imagine how frustrating that has to be. It is frustrating to pay that kind of money for people to not show up. I am glad that your wedding was wonderful and full of fond memories that you will cherish forever.

I feel your pain. I am in a similar situation. My brother, his wife and their 3 teen aged to adult kids blew me off, my uncle also and a few of my husband's friends didn't show up. I'm not so upset about my uncle. I figured he wasn't going to show up because he was one of the people I had to call and message a few times about not receiving his RSVP. But I texted my brother and sister-in-law and they said they were coming with the family. Well they live out of state and they were supposed to be staying at my parents. Since they live out of state I decided to reach out to them again and the day before the wedding they said they couldn't come because one of their kids had finals. I was upset because a save the date was sent 5 months prior and they rsvp'd for a family of 5. I still haven't gotten a call from them congratulating me or anything and it's my own family. I've never had drama or anything with them so it is quite hurtful.

Unfortunately this may not solve the problem like the you think it will. We literally just went to Tahoe (coincidentally) for my cousin's wedding this weekend and last minute, she had 8 people cancel and they had to pay for them. They all just canceled their travel last minute. One of them was her first cousin who she is very close with and he canceled for no good reason.

I ended up having 3 people not show up on my wedding. One was his cousin who RSVPed yes, and then a few days before the wedding, she texted my husband to let him know she wouldn't be able to make it and she meant to tell him sooner. We don't know why she couldn't make it, but I'm assuming it might have something to do with money? I'm trying not to be upset about it, but my husband made it to both her first and second wedding... I just feel like it was a little inconsiderate.

One of the couples we invited came to help us set up. They made the venue GORGEOUS. Right before our reception, my husband told me that they weren't there because her grandmother died that day. I feel awful about it, but I'm so grateful she helped us set up. Of course I can't be mad that her grandmother died and she had to make the 2 hour trip back to our hometown.

I was pretty worried more people wouldn't show. A lot of my family members were late because of unexpected traffic due to a bad car accident, but they made it to the reception, which is where all our money was spent. I'm so sorry that your guests were rude and inconsiderate and waited for you to reach out to them before giving you a reason (or excuse).

Hi! i totally understand the disappointment, but you also have to realize that this is kind of a weird time for people. Of course, that's not an excuse not to text you and say sorry that they can't make it after all, but you have to be understanding that people's lives are changing by the day.

The number you referenced is actually quite normal. This year has been so odd for so many. Just because someone cannot make it to your wedding does not mean they do not care about you. It just means they have things in their own lives that need to take precedence at that time.

Don't worry about it, and just be happy you had a beautiful day regardless.