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Katie
VIP August 2021

No smoking

Katie, on February 11, 2021 at 8:08 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 30
When I'm around a lot of cigarette smoke I get really sick. I'll get bad migraines and feel sick to my stomach.


We are having the ceremony outside and the reception in an enclosed tent in our backyard. My aunt brought up a good point I almost overlooked and that's the smoking rule. She was telling me how if we don't state smoking is not allowed in tent then people are going to most likely smoke inside the tent. She said all it takes is for one person to start smoking for every other smoker to start smoking. She was recently at a wedding with an enclosed tent and she said 2 of her adult children left the reception early because people were smoking and it became to much for them. And obviously I don't want any smoking of any kind in the tent because I don't want or need to be sick at my wedding. We do have quite a few smokers.
My aunt said to put on the website something like do to the brides health there will be no smoking in the tent. But my thinking is that people might think I have a serious health issue. I don't want people to smoke in the tent but I don't want to alarm some or you know have people questioning it? I don't know.
How should I word it?





30 Comments

Latest activity by Klementina, on May 25, 2023 at 2:14 PM
  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
    Katie ·
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    I would say the venue has designated smoking areas outside of the reception tent and you are welcome to smoke in those designated areas. I would blame it on the venue and say that’s the venue’s rule 😉
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    “No smoking will be permitted in the tent.” I’ve never been to a tented wedding where smokers smoked in the tent and nearly all my family are smokers. You could also get some of those stand up ash tray things and put them away from the tent so people see that there’s a space for smoking.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Agree with this. I’ve never seen people smoke inside a tented wedding, but having a designated smoking area should give them a hint.
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  • Expert September 2021
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    This may be kind of harsh, but I would very clearly just say 'no smoking'. I'm getting married in September and have already had a couple of discussions about this. It's your wedding day, and if you simply don't want people smoking during the few hours they're celebrating with you, that's okay. Even if it has nothing to do with you getting sick - I don't get sick but I HATE the smell and hate that even though I'm not smoking, I will smell like it all night if I'm around it.

    In my opinion, you don't really need a magical phrase to say you don't want smoking, if you don't want it, that's plenty!

    The trouble with "smoking areas" is that if you're in a small yard, it won't stick to one area. and lingers to clothes!

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  • Jessica
    Devoted February 2021
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    For the last wedding I did with smoking sensitivity we created a smoking area away from the tent. we put white Adirondack chairs around a fire pit and put a Small table with hand rolled cigars and a sign that said smoking lounge on it. Worked perfectly
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    "No smoking on the venue's premises. Please walk to your car and then smoke."
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  • Courtney
    Expert September 2022
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    Since the tent is going up in your backyard you can absolutely tell people no smoking in the tent. If they want to smoke they can go to the front away from the tent to smoke.

    If anyone puts up a fuss say that the people you're renting the tent from have a strict rule about it. Enough cigarette smoke will yellow the inside of their tent, so.

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    Master July 2019
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    You really don't have to provide an explanation. Just put out a sign that says "no smoking."
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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
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    Unfortunately we are the venue lol. We are having it at our house in the backyard.
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  • Katie
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    Katie ·
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    Thank you. I have never been to a tent wedding where people smoked in the tent either, but then again they were always at venues not someones backyard. When my aunt told me about that happening at the one wedding I was kind of shocked. I feel like if it's enclosed it should be a given, but I guess it's all about your crowd maybe.
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  • Katie
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    Yea that's true. And I agree I hate when my clothes smell like smoke.
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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
    Katie ·
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    That's a very good idea. And sounds fancy for a nice wedding.
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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
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    That's smart thinking. And very true. Some rental companies don't allow smoking in their tents, I never thought of that.
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    I would just have a cute sign somewhere that says "no smoking please." It's your backyard and you have the right to say no smoking! I certainly wouldn't do a designated smoking area because that just encourages smoking in that area and encourages the smokers to congregate there. Your guests are adults--they can make do for several hours without smoking (unless you know someone who's extremely addicted). If I were having a backyard wedding, I would not allow smoking on my property whatsoever.

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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
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    Thanks that sounds like something I will probably do. I can make my own cute sign so people know. I know most of the people one my side who are very respectful when it comes to smoking, I just don't know about the other people from his side. And rather have something state no smoking then be at my reception and regret not mentioning it.
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
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    I completely agree with this! You don't need a fancy phrase to say 'no smoking'.

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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
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    Thank you😊. I just wasn't sure how to go about this.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
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    I agree with this too. I'd just have a "no smoking" sign that applies to your entire property.

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    Expert April 2021
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    As with a lot of other things, you honestly don't owe guests an explanation for why smoking isn't allowed. For my wedding there will be absolutely no smoking (of any sort) or vaping allowed because my mom and I are asthmatic and I get migraines typically within a few seconds of smelling weed or cigarette smoke. I don't know if anyone invited smokes, but I know quite a few of them vape so it will definitely need to be mentioned.

    If you have an FAQ section on your wedding website, that would be a great place to mention it. I might phrase it like, "We appreciate you not smoking at our wedding. If you'd like to take a smoke break, please do so at your vehicle." As for the venue itself, a simple "No Smoking" sign is never a bad idea.

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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
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    Thank you that sounds really good wording.
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