No Support from Friend or Sister

I probably wouldn't respond either. I have a job, I don't need to attend meetings outside of work for a wedding that I'm attending. Unless they are paid employees, I wouldn't expect them to help or attend meetings. That's what your FS and vendors are for. Where are they purchasing dresses from? I think it's completely fine for a grown woman to want to wear a different dress than a 14 year old girl, but they are cutting it pretty close with timing.

View Quoted Comment Hi Caitlyn


No it was a text meeting lol because we all don't live in the same city but no reply to my texts they all ignored it. Then just now today I get a good morning text from my friend. Like hmmm dif u see my long text from yesterday like you aren't going to acknowledge that i sent a text. I'm like so over it right now

I can understand your frustration but the truth is no one really cares about the details of our weddings, except us. People rarely ask me, and if they do it’s a general statement not specific. My MOH doesn’t really discuss any details of the wedding with me. It’s hard to realize that we are the only ones that care about every detail of the wedding. Also when someone else is in an unhappy relationship, I’m sure hearing about your happy wedding plans could be hard for her.

Let them pick their own dress, a grown women and a 14 year old would be more comfortable wearing different styles. You can still choose colour and fabric and let them pick.

As for the last comment........I personally would be extremely hurt/insulted if I was in a wedding and the bride advised me she has backup people planned, and am I still wanting to be a bridesmaid.

Good luck with everything ☺️

View Quoted Comment Thank you Michelle for listening. Yes! Nobody cares about our wedding plans but us. No i didn't actually tell them i have backup . i just said let me know if u ladies are wanting to be in the wedding and if not I need to know so i can have a backup. Still no response. Yes u right let them picked their own dresses and I did. They still haven't purchased it or anything for the wedding. I'm not going to let this ruin my joy. Yesterday I was emotional but today joy comes in the morning. Have a good day

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I hear ya. Sometimes I just wished someone cared enough to ask me about it. It doesn’t bother me having a lack of support from the one MOH (no bridesmaid)

that’s great to let them pick their own style! I had to book the appointment and tell my girl to meet me at the store and we ordered her dress, but it sure seemed she may not have done it all on her own. Ohhh well! I’m glad you feeling better today, and also glad you didn’t tell them you have a back up lol. It must be super frustrating to not get any type of response back. It’s just not nice to ignore messages, I know we all get busy but I hope they take 10 minutes to at least respond to you. ❤️

I agree with Michelle, no one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you are. It sounds like your friend is going through a really rough time in her relationship, and is probably focused on that. Plus, we are currently in a pandemic and people have a lot of added stressors in their lives. my best advice would be to modify your expectations of other people’s feelings about your wedding. Unless it is something 100% necessary, I would stop talking about the wedding/planning to your bridal party- people get burnt out on hearing about it pretty quickly. But, that is the beauty of wedding wire! You have an audience of hundreds of brides right here who are also planning weddings and are excited to talk about it with you, share ideas, give advice, etc. Give your wedding party a break and come talk to all of us about it! 😊

View Quoted Comment Thank you Chrysta. I just said I'm done talking about it they probably sick of hearing me talk about it. You are so right we are in a Pandemic and with people loosing their lives and homes etc just thank God for our blessings. Thank you I needed to hear this. Have a blessed day and congrats to you 😃

I had a bridesmaid go completely MIA. I didn’t get from her till I sent a text reminding her that she hasn’t rsvpd and they deadline was yesterday, she then declined the invite.

That’s what this forum is for lol
My friends aren’t as excited to talk about wedding planning and it’s fine. But the people here are so this has been my outlet 😊

I get your frustration because we always hope for people to be as excited as we hope but unfortunately like the others have pointed out it doesn’t always work that way. Luckily that’s what this forum is here for because everyone on here is excited about weddings aha

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry Emma this is terrible and it just shows us who are truly our friends our.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Melle. Yes thank you ladies so much for listening and glad we all can relate

That sounds rough. Utilize the forum here because most people in everyday life don't care about planning details as much as you do. But outright ignoring your texts is not ok. Some people get busy and sidetracked but they still respond at some point. In a pandemic, there's enough uncertainty on its own without throwing anything else into the mix.


The fact they haven't made an attempt to purchase dresses yet sounds like they don't want to be involved without saying it. Could be wrong though.
Those who are supportive will be there for at the day, and they are the ones who matter. If push comes to shove, it's ok to not have a backup. Any (legal adult 18+) guest can sign the marriage certificate as your witness.
Best of luck and keep your chin up!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jana.... Yes and my daughters have my back if nobody else does. Thank you for listening