No thank you cards???

Did her mother not raise her to send thank you cards? I’m 28 and my mother surely did. I even teach my 4 and 9 year old to do that. Doesn’t matter if it was a Christmas gift, a birthday gift or a just because gift….it is just proper etiquette to send a thank you card and it seems like common sense. If someone took their money and time to purchase a gift for you, it seems like you’d take the time to send a damn thank you card instead of taking not even 5 seconds to send a text message. I’m just super annoyed that I got a damn text message versus her taking the few minutes it would’ve taken to write out a thank you card. Am I overreacting??? I’ll suck it up if I am. FYI: the girl is 21.

Maybe she sent you the text to let you know she received it and will be sending your thank you card with everyone else's from the shower. Don't jump to conclusions quite yet! Give her a couple weeks.

I agree with Richard. Hopefully she sent the text as a way to let you know that she received the gift. If it was just this past Saturday she could still be working on the thank you cards.

But if she never sends a card, then yes that is super rude! I know those pre-printed "Thanks for sharing in our special day" thank you cards are becoming more popular for weddings now. Its really sad that people can't take the time to hand write a card to say thank you.

I mean you did say the shower was just this past weekend. Maybe she hasn't gotten to mailing the cards yet. I just had my bridal shower on Saturday and since I work full time I haven't had time to send the cards, but will be this weekend. Maybe she just wanted to acknowledge your gift at the time (which I did for several guests who sent gifts but couldn't make it) and will still be sending a thank you card out. Again it hasn't even been a week. I say yes you are overreacting, but only until a certain amount of time has passed with no physical card. I say if by this time next week there is no thank you card or even a mention that they are in the mail, then yes you have every right to be upset. Give it time for now.

I'm 28 and I never send a Thank You card nor do I ever receive them. Let me explain myself. With having 5 children money is tight and buying cards and postage can be pricey if sending out a lot. Every penny I can save I can ( for the kids ) also most new moms are on a leave from work and don't have a income coming in. I would be pissed if there was no thank you at all but not over a text. It is 2017 and mailing things like that are kind of dated.

Hopefully the text was just the acknowledgement and a formal thank you note will be coming in the next few weeks.

I put a lot of weight on thank you cards. I was raised to write them, and now it's just part of my hard-wiring. Whether I want to or not, I always remember those who don't send them. But, then again, I put a lot of weight on formal wedding invitations being sent through the mail (I'm not even a fan of handing them out -- it reminds me of Valentine's Day in elementary school). E-vites? I don't understand them either. I think these important, invitation-only life events (which are rare in life) warrant something a little more formal. But that's me.

Anyway, there is the possibility that the email you received was a way to let you, someone who wasn't there, know that she received your gift and she appreciates it. However, because the event was just five days ago, she may not have written out any formal thank you cards yet, and when she does, you're probably on the list for one (unless, of course, everyone is getting an electronic thank you card).

At least I'll say this for her -- she did thank you, in writing. You'd be shocked by how many seemingly polite people don't even acknowledge a gift (even when you see them, face to face, after the event. That takes it to a different level).

Are you overreacting? You're entitled to your feelings. You'd only be overreacting if you started a FB campaign against her -- and you're not doing that, so it's okay, lol.

Give her a little bit of time. The event was less than a week ago. Maybe she just wanted to let you know she received the gift. A thank you note could still be on its way.

For years I would mail my niece's and nephews Christmas and Birthday gifts and I never got a Thank You.. would have loved to receive a text... ( Crying emoji face )

She may still be sending a thank you card, I would give it a little time

I actually just got early shower gifts last night in the mail so I texted the family and thanked them saying it was so kind and sweet of them. Then before I went to bed, I wrote them a thank you card that I'll be mailing out tomorrow. So maybe she hasn't had a second to write one yet?

You are not overreacting and I would be annoyed too. I told my kids since they were little, if they aren't willing to write thank you cards, they have to send the gift back.

Ashley, you do not have to spend more than one dollar (and usually, the dollar stores do a two for one on packaged sets of thank you cards). In fact, those same dollar stores sell little stationary sets for one dollar. You'll get 10 - 20 pieces of paper and corresponding envelopes. You can certainly afford a dollar (we're talking about four quarters), right? Your handwritten message will instantly stand out.

There is no monetary excuse for not sending thank you cards. There are ways of doing it that take nothing more than the change you find under the couch cushion.

I think times are changing and although I agree, she might not have meant it to be rude. However, she also might still be sending you a thank you card and just wanted to say thanks via text as well

The text was nice to let you know she got it. However I was raised to send thank you cards as well. It does take a lot of time to write them out so maybe just be patient. Hopefully she sends one. That was very nice of you btw

Ugh this stuff really bothers me. I went to a wedding a couple years ago and they never sent a thank you note or even a text. I gave them a generous cash gift. A lot of people where upset at them. 2 years later, no note. She has no kids and wasn't working at the time But her excuse was she had no time.

My friend had a bridal shower in Sept and the wedding in October and I JUST received the thank you card for the bridal shower. Not to mention I gave her a check for their engagement party and didn't get any sort of thank you for that! Not even a text message and this is a 28 year old.

Honestly, I would be happy for a texted thank you. A written thank you is great, but any acknowledgment at all is nice. I also agree it is a little early to be thinking that was it. She just had the shower, give her some time to get thank yous written. I also agree a hand written thank you is best, but in this day and age I'll take what I can get.

Ashley, you can handwrite a thank you note on a plain piece of paper, fold it up and put it in an envelope. I'm sure you can find plain copy paper somewhere.

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That stinks. My bridal shower was the 11th and I sent out my last thank you note yesterday. I always write thank you notes. We'll be teaching our kids the same.