Non legal commitment ceremony

Have you spoken to a lawyer to make sure this is allowed? Some states take these commitment ceremonies (especially if guests are involved) as a wedding and will stop the services/checks you get even if you don’t actually get legally married.

Hello. It’s allowed

Also we will not live together or call ourselves married. I was not asking for your input about your views on our commitment

View Quoted Comment It’s not my view. I’m just making sure this is ok where you live. I know someone who was denied benefits because they had a commitment ceremony (not a legal wedding) and the state decided that it appeared enough like a marriage to warrant her no longer receiving her health insurance and disability checks.

View Quoted Comment I’m under my mother’s insurance and I’m not receiving checks. There is no where I’m stating this a marriage or wedding this is a celebration of our love only.

Do you have any poetry quotes that could be added in your celebrating love vows or that your friend could add in to the ceremomy part?

View Quoted Comment No but my friend is high school English teacher so I’ll ask her to put in poetry quotes!! Great input thank you!!

This is an INCREDIBLY rude thing to say. And I've flagged your comment. Please refrain from telling someone their love and commitment is ridiculous and/or lame.

Op. If you look at the universal life church they have customizable scripts; https://www.ulc.org/wedding-script

I’ve never heard of this before but honestly it kinda makes me sad. I’m sorry you are not able to get legally married and get the assistance and medications you need. I personally think that is pretty lame! However, I think your idea of a commitment ceremony is lovely and sweet. I would try offbeatbride.com as I have seen a few ceremony scripts there that are very nice. You could probably revise them in case they say anything about marriage. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment It is pretty lame!! I hate how much I have to jump through hoops to Commitment my love… but thank you I will try this!!!

I can’t see why the state would care if two people care to profess their love at a party. They can’t file joint tax returns, they are literally not tied together legally. Why would a commitment ceremony count as a legal wedding. Like, they don’t care what you do in your personal life.

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Actually for disability they do. You can lose benefits, having a child, working above the allowed portion, a variety of reasons.

I’m not understanding what disability you’re talking about. SSI, a marriage or commitment ceremony (living together) would affect your benefits, SSDI a marriage has zero impact on benefits. I’m assuming if you don’t receive checks, then you don’t receive SSDI.

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That’s odd, unless it was SSI, not SSDI. Only SSI will being married/living together affect benefits.

You can’t tell people bye, and to not post.. it’s against CGs.

There’s a lot of examples and scripts on Pinterest. You could see enxamples, and rewrite it mentioning commitment instead of marriage.

https://www.brides.com/story/how-to-create-your-own-wedding-ceremony

https://apracticalwedding.com/how-to-write-your-wedding-ceremony/

Here’s two that could be redone to show commitment,

Script 1Script 2

It’s not okay people on here on here asking me about my personal disability and not helping me with my question.

so thank you for the helpful input!

View Quoted Comment They’re not living together, so really no harm. But it’s probably a good idea to check the local laws just in case. And really it’s no one else’s business if they live together or don’t. A commitment ceremony is just that, a commitment. Sorry YOU feel they shouldn’t have a commitment ceremony if they’re not getting married. They don’t have to do what’s traditional to profess their love to one another.

Best of luck my dear!

View Quoted Comment It was inconsiderate of me to say that, and I apologize to OP.

View Quoted Comment I have some one checking in case and thank you for your comment!!

I would think everything could be the same besides "I now pronounce you husband & wife" and any other husband & wife talk. Also, some people view their marriage as legitimate in front of the eyes of God, rather than the government. So if you wanted to say husband & wife, there is nothing stopping you! Kind of similar to older couples that don't want to do the whole marriage thing yet, but are dedicated to each other for life? I wouldn't worry about it not sounding like a wedding ceremony, I'd just do it like you always dreamed it would be. If I was attending a wedding, I wouldn't care if you two were signing a piece of paper or not!