Non member church wedding ceremony

I am christian (baptist) and FH is Catholic and we both would likd to have a church ceremony. It will most likely be in a christian church because FH’s catholic church of choice is pretty strict on their rules. So the church I usually attend (I dont think I would be considered a “member”) is very small and my mom’s church home in the next town over is even smaller.

There are a few churches that I looked up that are a good size & their sanctuaries are very pretty. My first choice is a Lutheran Church that is 3 blocks away from my house. My second choice is a United Methodist Church. Both churches dont have any information about weddings on their website, so I did a google search for Lutheran and Methodist wedding policies (just to get an idea) and now im nervous!!
I have now picked a 3rd & 4th backup just in case I get turned down. We really need an indoor ceremony for an April wedding and my town is pretty small so there arent many venue options for ceremony. It would be inconvenient to find a ceremony venue in neighboring towns so im really hoping that Im just overreacting and hopefully it won’t be hard to find a church. (Also going to tour a small winery in my town to see If we can have the ceremony there if the room is big enough and not too expensive)


Any advice from people in similar situation?

Did you attend church services at the church before asking or talking to the pastor or did you just give them a call. I would feel guilty not attending at least one service. Also what do I say when the pastor asks why I chose their church, because your church is one of the prettiest in town 😩.

How many people have gotten turned down from a church and which of my top picks might seem more lenient?