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Jena
Just Said Yes October 2021

None of my family can come to the wedding

Jena, on June 17, 2021 at 7:48 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6
I wanted to see if she has been put in a similar situation.


My fiance and I live in Colorado. I'm from Ohio. His family is all from Colorado and are able to attend our wedding. My family on the other hand can't afford to come out for my wedding. Only my dad, step mom, and one of my brothers can make it (my mom died years ago). Have other people been in this situation? If so, how did you deal with it/cope?

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Latest activity by Ashlee, on June 19, 2021 at 10:55 AM
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    Can you help your VIPs with their airfare and lodging? I wasn't able to afford to go to two different brothers' International weddings. It was sad, but it's a reality of destination weddings and there wasn't anything to be done in those cases.

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  • Catherine
    Expert March 2023
    Catherine ·
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    For my first wedding only my mom (no dad) and uncle came. My birth family got stuck in a snow storm and missed it. It was sad. But I looked at all the love that I had in one room for me and my fiancé and that helped take the edge off
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  • Janet
    Expert October 2018
    Janet ·
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    Unfortunately, aside from helping them with travel and lodging expenses, there isn't much you can do. It is definitely a bummer, but no matter how much one is able to save, it may still be out of reach. Smiley sad

    You can always set up a zoom call so they can attend from afar.

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  • Thinn
    Devoted September 2021
    Thinn ·
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    None of my family will be attending my wedding. They live half way across the world. Due to Covid, travel restrictions and other things going on where they live, they can’t make it even if I pay for their airfare. I have a good network of friends here so that helps. I will be walking myself down the aisle. We will celebrate with my family in the future when we can finally see them. It’s sad but it’s the reality of the situation. You could also have someone FaceTime them so they can see you walk down the aisle.
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    Judith ·
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    Will you be able to travel to them soon after to see those who could not come? Have a Thanksgiving size mostly family dinner! This, to me, is the only reason to spend money on a video. Not face time or zoom where you miss things because the camera would be in the wrong place. Doing it at the same time does not matter as much as getting the ceremony and walking, or roving, through the tables
    Make sure your video is 4-6 weeks editing, max. We have groups of 10-20 as close as my cousins and aunts and uncles in Nunavik, Greenland, Finland, Denmark and just across in Sweden. A limited number travel for any thing, but some from each group , and the couple always travels in the coming year.
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  • Ashlee
    Super September 2022
    Ashlee ·
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    You can always set up a video stream for those who aren't able to make it. And/Or hire a videographer. Also whenever you're able to visit next, plan some sort of small reception, like rent out a room at a restaurant and invite extended family as a "belated celebration"

    I'm worried about this with my family honestly. I'm from Nebraska, my fiance is from New Jersey and we live in New Jersey. I let all my family know our date and location as soon as we booked a venue so that they had plenty of time to plan. I've also already booked a hotel block so they can start planning around that as well. I'm hoping with the advanced notice, that many will be able to come. Some of my cousins have already said there is no way they'd miss it, so fingers crossed.

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