noooo pink

Put the request everywhere you can. From personal experience trying to get my covid safety info out to guest was difficult as only 5 people visited my website. I put info on the back on save the dates and on enclosure cards but some people lost those immediately and were still asking me for information. I sent a covid safety letter/ emails on our hired testing site at the venue and downloaded that wedtext app to communicate with all guest (not free but the only method that was able to reach everyone) mind you I had a small guest list after downsizing due to covid and it was still a challenge to communicate specific information to everyone even as small as what day of the week the wedding was on 🥴

I would suggest putting it in the FAQ on your wedding website.

This is how we did our! We did a whole page for just the dress code on the Wedding sit, but I also am sending it to all the attending guests! Feel free to steal it and alter to you.

Ewwww pink!!! I’m with you 100000% I actually never thought of asking my guests not to wear it however I just may now that I’ve read ur post lol!!! Anyone who needs an explanation is just being nosy (no disrespect)!!! It’s curiosity as far as I’m concerned it’s YOUR DAY ~ YOUR WEDDING… if u don’t want to look at pink so be it!!! I also agree with the website part I personally don’t have one just bc I never got around to making one however I’ve never even looked at any of my friends or families if they had them so I would definitely do both!!! I hope u have an amazing pink free wedding!!!

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. It’s also the reasoning why many social circles do not list dress codes. There is no polite way to do this.

I think it’s patronizing to tell adults what not to wear. You can’t do that without being condescending.

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Thanks Pamela! I love how some READ and some don't! I am blunt in saying this but I didn't ask personal opinion on this as I am asking them Not to wear it regardless! Yes its our day and I don't want to see it! I will be taking photos and talking to as many if not all my guest so I do NOT want that color in my pics! We are not asking for gifts or money so this is an ALL free wedding for our guests, so I don't see the problem to follow this simple request! I mean if our guests have a problem with not wearing a color they don't have to come! I feel if they love us they wont be bothered as some imply! Seems petty if they threw a fit and more like they want to ruin my idea of the perfect wedding to my perfect guy! I have been to plenty of weddings and they all have some type of dress code! Good luck on your wedding and I hope you get it exactly how you both want it!

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Thank you kim for your unwanted and specifically not requested advice. Guess our guests will either patronize my request or stay home! Future advice to you would be to read! Thanks deary and good luck on your wedding!

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Sierra: I love this and as a guest receiving this I wouldn't care ONE BIT! Free food drink and a great time with my friend/family..... CAN DO!

View Quoted Comment I would say that in years past, that would be correct about kids not being invited…however at this time, almost everyone I know automatically assumes their kids are invited to almost everything…it is very odd…so sometimes you have to break etiquette to spell things out for people and to avoid having many uncomfortable discussions…as far as requesting that guests not wear pink, I would only put it on the web site & pass it around word of mouth…I do think it is an odd request and I would try not to be bothered if someone does up ending wearing pink, as they may not have gotten the memo. My least favorite color is brown, but I cannot imagine telling people not to wear it to a wedding!

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I get that, but this is an etiquette board. So I post about the etiquette around poster's questions.

I'm not a fan of brown either, lol.

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I don't think it is unreasonable to politely request it (to me it is no different to stipulating a dress code generally) but be mindful that your guests won't stay home or decline purely because they planned on wearing pink. Heck, I've been to black tie weddings where people have turned up in jeans and cowboy boots!

View Quoted Comment You sound like a joy to be around

I'm not gonna tell you not to but I'm just gonna say make sure you think about the impression you're leaving your family and friends. If I read that a bride/groom was trying to dictate what I, as an adult, could wear, I'd look at that person a little sideways going forward. I would then expect that person to be a bridezilla/groomzilla and it would affect my entire perception going into the wedding. You also have to be prepared to answer the question "why no pink??" a hundred times and not get mad at people for asking why because they're, naturally, going to be curious.

As a guest I would go out of my way to find a pink
Dress, pink shoes, pink purse and pretty pink bow for my hair. The exact shade of pink would be Pepto Bismol.

Hello this is an hard one to ask your guest not to wear any kind of pink so just say Hello to our guest I have one favorite to ask 😌can y’all not wear any kind of pink for our wedding so my reason is very personal too me and this is a very special day for us but I truly appreciate if no one any kind of pink..

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I like the personality of this approach! Thank you Janicaellison

I just wanted to respond again and let you know how sending out my dress code picture went. Absolutely everyone was fine and not one person question my decision. Remember this is your decision and don’t let anyone change your mind.

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I appreciate you Sierra! I don't get persuaded once I made an affirmative decision but I understand many that do! I just can't waver in any decision my FH and I both agree on! It will be his and my second and we both didn't have say in our first! It will be 100% what we both choose and No flopping! The people attending know us and most know us well so they shouldn't question this decision and should really be expecting it! I find that things that are important should be said so there's NO miscommunications. I am sooo glad yours went so well! Those who love us should support us! And if they don't love us they aren't invited in the first place! Am I right!!

View Quoted Comment Yes preach! My fiancé and I are actually both 18, high school sweethearts, so EVERYONE has tried to contradict us. Thankfully we have lots of friends and family that know us, and they know it’s my way or the high way lol! We’ve been through a lot this last year and we just want it to be amazing.