Normal length of engagement?

My best friend was engaged for 3 years and our engagement will come out to just under a year. He wanted to be married sooner, but I asked for more time to plan things and get money together.

You're engagement period sounds just fine to me OP. There is no normal. I'm guessing those people that are surprised don't really understand how much weddings can cost!

I don't think there is a normal length. Some people I know have engagements for around a month or two. My engagement has been the longest in our families of 2 years and 3 months. Many joked that they thought we would never get married.

So I am only saying this so you may understand what other people are thinking, even if what they are thinking isn't correct or justified in this case. People really shouldn't judge the length of engagement at all (that's totally a personal decision and no real reason to judge), but maybe people thought since you have been together for a long time that you likely would have been planning to marry for a while, and therefore saving during that time even if not formally engaged. And so they may think that you'd be eager to get married soon, had already saved, and therefore that you wouldn't wait two years. But everyone's life situation is different. Some people don't think about marriage until they have been together longer than 15 years. Some people get married 3 months after knowing one another. That's why it's not good to judge.

Personally, we were together a little over 4 years before we got engaged, and engaged for about 9 months when we got married. It was a fairly short engagement. But we are already in our 30s, we had money saved already (just hadn't necessarily decided to spend that money on a wedding or honeymoon until the time came, it was previously whatever money not allocated to anything in particular for each of us), and have been in stable jobs and out of school for a while. For those reasons, I didn't want to wait 2 years through an engagement. But that's not everyone's life circumstance or preference. And it was a lot to plan quickly. and we missed out on some venues that were already booked.

Be happy, and enjoy your time being engaged. 9 months or two years it will fly by!

Our engagement will be 22 mo the long when we get married. We wanted time to plan and save and have the wedding we wanted without help from others.

The current average engagement length is 13 months, but it all depends on your personal plans!

We were engaged for about 16 months and I definitely got some weird comments from my older relatives asking why we were waiting so long. Wedding venues now start booking up 1-2 years in advance so I don't think we could have done it any faster!!

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My FH and i have been together for a little over 5 years. We have a 2yr 1 month engagement, specifically because we want to get married on our 6yr anniversary. 233 days away!!!

8 month engagement. We aren't spring chickens and neither are my grandparents who I want in attendance. I think people are more taken aback by your wait since you have been together for 15 years.

There is no normal amount for an engagement, just depends on the people and what they choose.

I feel like there's no pleasing people when it comes to stuff like this. (I swear there's something about weddings that brings the worst out in people!) My FH and I got engaged in October and set the date for May, and our reaction from people was: why so soon? Ugh. I wouldn't sweat it. You do you!

Ours will be 2 1/2 years. I'm sure people think it's a long engagement. Like you said weddings are expensive and we have others things we're trying to do.

I think its different for everyone really. I got engaged October 8th of 2016 and we are getting married October 6th of this year. I wanted a two year engagement so I wasn't having to rush with planning and would have more time to save money.

We been together for 9 years and our engagement will be 18 months in June

Mine will be just under 2 years. We have been together for 5 years and living together for 1. We don't want to rush the date because we want it to be perfect.

Average time is about 14 months. However, some engagement are for a short period of time, while others last a few years. I know people who got married two months after their engagement, others about 8 months. I also, know this other friend who have being engaged for 3 years. Is up to you, whatever you decide that is best for both of you. Congratulations!

15 months to the day. We had been together six years when we get engaged.

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That's interesting! I would have expected the average to be a bit longer.

There are so many factors to it anyways. FH and I had talked about wedding plans a lot before we were actually engaged, and we knew the gist of what we wanted. Our families all live close and no one was difficult to deal with. It made things go quickly for us. I have friends who never really talked about marriage before they actually got engaged and had a lot to figure out. There's no right or wrong way. Just different.

My fiancé and I got engaged this pass August. We have been together for almost 6 years now. We are getting married March 22, 2019 on our 7 years anniversary. But i had a friend and she was engaged for 3 years before they got married.

2 years is not too long. Me and my FH have been together for 22 years and we had a 2 years and 4 months engagement. We needed the time to pay and organize our wedding on a tight budget. We have 93 more days and I still have things to get done. Do what is right and comfortable for you.

Congratulations!

Our engagement will be 10 months. We didn't even want to wait that long. We've been together for 4 years and living together for a year and a half.

Same here. We've been together 8yrs. Engaged April 2016 and wedding is August 2018. It's a destination wedding so I wanted to give everyone time. Looking back I should've eloped lol.